self harm issues with bio mom

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ok ive posted before with some issues we have had with my SD bio mom.. we found out a few months ago something had happened but not sure what .. she couldnt see her daughter for a week and then her parents stepped away from the supervising her visits... ( she went 3 months without seeing her before resumming visits) his lawyer sent a letter last week saying the info they had was wrong from the incident and that it was in fact some time of self harm attempt.. ( she has a history of drugs, booze and self harm) and that they needed her to sign a form or send a new sepena to the courts to get the hospital records to see exactly what happened.. so her visits are completely stopped now unless she gets a court ordered superviser... my question is am i wrong for wanting to keep her from my SD she is 2 1/2 with us full time, safe and happy with us... i know she is the mother.. but seeing her 4 hours a week isnt really being a mother... and now she wont see her for who knows how long.. SD is still young she could have a chance to not grow up witnessing her mother doing these things, and being let down..or harmed herself.. WHAT DO I DO!!! i am in need of a friend or advice!

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yes he has a attorney hes been working with i kinda think he needs to get a different one cause her visits should have never started back up without the info from the hospital..

Lakota - posted on 05/22/2013

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I'm sure it has been very hard on your whole family. I think you and your husband are right. Do you have an attorney?

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Lakota..thank you for saying that!! i am the mother to my SD i do everything while her mom gets to "babysit" for 4 hours a week and call herself a mother.. He wants to strip her of her rights.. she has mental issues and its just going to be a never ending issue with her... and better for my SD to be away from it ( i have 2 from a previous marriage) its just been very hard on me...

Lakota - posted on 05/22/2013

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Hey there. No, you are not wrong at all. I agree with you 100%. Wish more stepmoms cared the way that you do. What does your husband want to do?

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