Selfish dad or nagging mom

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My boyfriend spends all his money on his game "collection" i asked him to stop long before i even got pregnant. Now my daughter is 4 months old and hes still collecting them. She has like 3 toys that shes been playing with for over a month now, day after day it gets boring for her n i dnt have any money tomgo buy her new things. My boyfriend keeps arguing that oh next week well get her stuff, next week comes along and hes soent his check already. I didnt even mention the fact that im still wearing maternity clothes becuz nothing fits me, ive lost 50 lbs so my clothes r saggy n to big which makes me feel so ugly. I have no source of money. What would you do? Kick him out? Collect child support from him? I dnt want to do that becuz obviously i still wanna b with him....i cant keep nagging tho.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/23/2015

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Well, you are NOT raising your daughter without help. You are living with your parents. That is a LOT of help right there.

In this case, I would kick him out, or at least give him an ultimatum (though they usually end badly). He is spending all of his money on his own toys, instead of helping you go back to college, or saving for your own place, and paying for baby essentials. Yeah you have been together for quite a while. You know him very well. Do you really see him changing his ways when he has a house he doesn't pay for and very little responsibility? Something has to change.

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Were both 25, been together 6 years. We live with my parents n 2 little sisters, he pays a few bills to help out, i never worked, i started school n wanted to go back n finish while shes young but my mom is already watching my 1 yr old nephew so to pay a babysitter is impossible.i want to raise her myself withought help i guess.....i told him if he wants to quit his job n be a stay at home dad ill go get a job n pay for the stuff she needs....ive talked to him about this before n it just turns into him arguing and im pretty much left with the same problem and unanswered issues....thats why im askin to c what anyone else would do.....im at my end with this. Shes only 4 months old shes not expensive yet u know shes goi g to get bigger n need more and more and more and he doesnt seem to get it.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/23/2015

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Selfish dad. Obviously you need to sit down and talk with him. Let him know this is not working out, and you have a whole new life to support and take care of.

If you can kick him out and go back to work, that would be my best suggestion. Are you both young? Did you have a career before pregnancy? Family around to help you?

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