Selfish step dad. Feeling like an outcast at home.

Oscar - posted on 07/29/2013 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My mom has re-united with a man she had separated with. He is my step dad. He is selfish as he only has his attention drawn towards mom. Mom never has attention to me anymore. I feel like an outcast in my own home and I am considering moving out.... what do I do?? Please help.

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Leela - posted on 08/04/2013

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Oscar your mom is not only a mother, she is a woman too. She's raised you, you are now an adult. How about growing up a bit and letting mom be happy? Getting a job sounds like a great first step

Jodi - posted on 07/30/2013

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Well, you did say "mom never has attention to me anymore" and how you feel like an outcast. If you are still a student, I can understand you are probably relying on your mother financially a little, but even as a student, you should still be able to to step up and get a job. My step-daughter is still a student a University full-time and also works a 32 hour week. It is perfectly possible.

Also, if you are still relying financially on her, how are you going to move out anyway?

Oscar - posted on 07/30/2013

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Actually its not really about the attention but the mere fact that I rely on her for financial help since I am still in school. However I will take your advice and see how I can be more self sufficient.

Jodi - posted on 07/30/2013

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Well, maybe as an adult you need to be a bit more self-sufficient and not depend on your mother so much? How much attention, as an adult, do you really feel you need?

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