Ellie - posted on 03/05/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )
I know this idea is somewhat crazy but I am desperate. I'm 20 years old and I have a 15 month old son. I am currently a single mom who lives in the U.S. Anyways, I am debating whether I should send my baby to live with my ex and his family or whether I should keep my baby here with me but the problem is that I'll be going to school in a few months and I'll be working too which means that I'll have no one to take care of my baby. My ex and his family suggested that I leave the baby with them even just for a few years because my ex also wants to be a part of our baby's life but has no choice in the matter because I chose to come back to the U.S. (Ex doesn't have a US visa/passport and it's hard to get a tourist visa).
I do trust my ex and his family because they are great and they loved my son because it's been awhile since they've had a baby in the family, I'm in great terms with both my ex and his family.
Anyways, I love my son and he is my whole world but I'm struggling right now and I just feel bad that I'll have no time for him when school starts. I figured that it would be better if he was raised in a loving family while I get my life together so that I can provide a better life for him when he comes back. I would probably bring him back by the time hes's 5. When I do leave him, I plan to visit atleast once a year and I would skype with him every night but what boggles me the most is that when he is old enough, he might hate me for it because he might think that I abandoned him...
Please fellow moms, I need your advice.