Seperation Anxiety in a Toddler

Jorden - posted on 04/13/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My boyfriends son will be 3 May 26th. His ex and him have gone to court and have joint custody, every other week. The last 3-4 weeks that we have had him, he has started to follow his dad around the house everywhere he goes and when he is going outside for just a second his son will start to cry and whine. His dad comes home on his lunch and when it is time for him to go his son with start to cry and screams at him saying "no" and trying to get him to pick him up. He was never like this before. If his dad had to leave he was fine and he wouldn't follow him everywhere in the house. I looked online and did some reading about it. I told his dad what he needs to do as in when he comes home for lunch and than has to leave he needs to tell his son short and briefly that he needs to go back to work and will be home when he is done. He has been doing that the last 2 weeks we have had him. He will still cry when his dad has to leave, I read that it takes time so I know that. I'm wondering if any other parent as had this happen to them with their child(children) and what have they done to help it to stop and how long it has took the child to not have seperation anxiety?

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Dove - posted on 04/13/2016

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It's likely a phase. A perfectly normal phase. You'd probably have a lot more peace of mind if you stopped looking on the internet trying to find a problem. Kids go through all sorts of weird phases in life.

If he is exhibiting a lot of concerning behaviors or you have good reason to suspect a trauma then go ahead and have his father ask his son's doctor, but it is more than likely just one of those things that kids do..

Jorden - posted on 04/13/2016

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I read that kids can develop it when they start daycare/preschool, he isn't in daycare and hasn't started preschool yet. I read that kid can develop it if they experience some kind of trama. I don't know if any of that is true as it on the internet. I just thought it was odd that all of a sudden when comes over and his dad has to leave that he screams and cries as he has never done that and the situation of leaving as been the same for a lil over a year.

Dove - posted on 04/13/2016

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Perfectly normal. Some kids won't do this at all. Some kids will do it for a few weeks/months. Some kids will do it for years. There is no way to predict which one this boy will be. Just stay calm and consistent and reassuring to him.

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