Kelina - posted on 06/05/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
I have two kids, a son 3 1/2 and a daughter 1 1/2. I'm currently about 35 -36 weeks pregnant depending on what you go by. Two weeks ago I went into preterm labor. They managed to stop my labor, and told me to rest and take it easy. On sunday, we were worried I was going into labor again, so my inlaws took our kids overnight for the second night in a row (the first night was a treat) with a bit of an attitude about it. Today was my kids first day home with me since saturday and I've had it. On Saturday I had reasonably well behaved kids, who went to bed and down for naps without a fuss and left places like the park without a fuss. They listened reasonably well. Ok, if I'm honest I'm told they listen really well and while they were good at pushing my buttons, what kid isn't. Now-I'm worn out. I'm exhausted from trying to do nothing and still be a parent. My kids came home from their grandparents overtired and whiny. When my husband brought them home last night my son slept from 5 o'clock, got up at 9 for a snack and was back in bed by 9:30 then slept until 8:15 this morning. This was not from running around or going out with grandma which they didn't do, this was from being kept up late, not napping, and getting up early. Or rather being allowed to nap in front of the tv which means he doesn't nap. On sunday he threw a fit when they told him it was time to go home. Apparently I'm mean because I don't let him watch tv all day. naptime was a fight that I eventually gave up on today because after 3 1/2 hours of trying to get my overtired exhausted little girl to sleep, I cried for ten minutes then just opened her door. Normally, there's no fight at naptime. Bedtime last night was an ordeal as well, over an hour and a half. The second night they had the kids, they were at my house when we thought I was going into labor, it was half an hour before the kids bedtime when we left. I would have preferred they put the kids to bed here and stayed here but apparently that was not acceptable. My pregnancy was stellar up until two weeks ago. now I'm on bedrest and trying to deal with two kids. Why do my only choices have to be go into early labor or deal with two kids who have been spoiled rotten by grandma and a newborn in a couple of weeks when he's born? Is there some universal rule that says this can't be a little bit easier? I feel like I'm being forced to choose between doing whats right for the kids I have and whats right for the baby inside me. I'm totally overwhelmed and emotional and to be honest my husband doesn't seem to understand the full scope of bedrest. I desperately need help and have no idea where to turn for it.