SERIOUSLY Frustrated!!!

Kate CP - posted on 12/26/2009 ( 22 moms have responded )

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Okay, I don't know how I can make this any clearer or more plain. I am CONSTANTLY repeating myself and NONE OF YOU seem to be paying attention or don't care. So, I am going to say it AGAIN and refer to the guidelines AGAIN about flagging content! Ready? Here we go...

1. slurs, stereotyping, or hate speech.
2. threats or personal attacks.
3. others posting the same thing again and again within the same group or across multiple groups.
4.. advertisements and solicitations.

Please do not flag just because someone’s opinion differs to yours, in such a large forum not everyone will agree, we are here to share our experience and advice.

For those of you who aren't clear on what an opinion is, here is the definition:
o⋅pin⋅ion
–noun
1. a belief or judgment that rests on grounds insufficient to produce complete certainty.
2. a personal view, attitude, or appraisal.

So, just because some one says "I think people who vaccinate are uninformed" DOES NOT MEAN that comment should be flagged!!! That is a personal opinion and DOES NOT violate the guidelines!!! However, if a person says "You don't vaccinate your children because you're an idiot" THAT is a personal attack and SHOULD be flagged!!!

I am sick and tired of going through PAGES of flagged content because people don't like another person's opinions on a subject. Guess what? We're all different and thus we will all have DIFFERENT OPINIONS!!! Some times those opinions may be worded in a blunt or crude manner, which I do not encourage. If you have something to say say it tactfully, PLEASE.

I'm assuming that since we're all mothers here we're all adults. Maybe I'm wrong in my assumption, but that's what comes to mind when I think of a mother: an adult. PLEASE START ACTING THE PART, LADIES!!!!

Kate Capehart

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Tiffany - posted on 12/26/2009

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Bravo! lol. I don't know why this has to be repeated so many times. Everyone needs to put on their big girl panties and deal with it(differences of opinion). Sorry for your frustration.

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Sharon - posted on 12/27/2009

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The other forums I belong to don't have the flag feature - presumably because, as you say, it gets abused. The mods keep a watchful eye out but if an individual has a complaint about a post they have to private message the link, and the copy & paste the text.

It cuts out a lot of the troublemakers.

Did you know you don't even have to be a member of a community to flag posts? I found that to be fascinating.

So if you're a breastfeeder hater, you could go to the BFing forums and flag the hell out of every post to annoy the mods. Which is bogus bullshit, if you ask me.

One of the forums I go to has a "rep" feature. You can vote a persons' reputation up or down, but its a scientific/hobbyist forum.

This feature also gets abused but the mods can see who is voting and if you don't provide a reason why you voted it up or down - the vote can be nullifed.... alot of work for mods.

However, barring a few kids who wander on to the site to cause issues, it doesn't get abused often. AND!!! Those who are idiotic - can be banned for life (via isp) or limited posting abilities (they can be locked from certain forums) its AWESOME!!

Krista - posted on 12/27/2009

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Quoting Sharon:

Hey? What if you you guys just disabled flagging and the only way to 'flag' a post would be to copy & paste the text & web addy and PM a mod or admin ?


That's not a bad idea, either. It's all too easy to flag someone on an impulse, or just to be a pain in the ass. But if the person had to go to the trouble of actually copy/pasting the offending statement and pm'ing a mod or admin, they probably wouldn't bother unless the post WAS actually pretty egregious. 



I frequent several other blogs, and the ones that allow flagging always tend to find that the feature gets abused. 

Kate CP - posted on 12/27/2009

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Quoting April:

*bumps*
I totally agree with what you're saying but why don't the MODs get told who reports? I thought that sort of thing would come up?
so-n-so flags such-n-such and maybe a why it was flagged? Can that option be added on for moderators in the future perhaps?


That's something that we're working on with the developers of CoM. 

Sashell - posted on 12/27/2009

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Really... cliques? Gimme a break! Good luck with your pages of flagged content :(

April - posted on 12/27/2009

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*bumps*
I totally agree with what you're saying but why don't the MODs get told who reports? I thought that sort of thing would come up?
so-n-so flags such-n-such and maybe a why it was flagged? Can that option be added on for moderators in the future perhaps?

Alison - posted on 12/26/2009

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actually on the subject of online bitchiness, unfortunately people tend to let their worst instincts rule when they cant be identified. Its a bit pathetic but you are so right, its just like high school bitchiness gone crazy. Look at all the cyberbullying that goes on, the internet has become an outlet for people to abuse without consequences. And as Mums, is that the behaviour we want to emulate for our kids? Hmmmmm?????

Alison - posted on 12/26/2009

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Hi Kate thanks for your comments, I heartily agree and hope that this practice improves. (or disappears). Its disappointing when people can't handle someone with an opinion other than theirs. Just because you have a strong opinion doesnt mean an alternate opinion is unworthy. Good luck! Alison

Kate CP - posted on 12/26/2009

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Quoting Loureen:

*applauds * Kate i could not agree more .

Now if only people could learn to comprehend your words .


Loureen I have lost all faith in humanity. It has been shown time and again that, as a whole, people are too stupid and too mean to be of much good to another human. And I guess that holds true on teh intarwebs, as well. 

Charlie - posted on 12/26/2009

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*applauds * Kate i could not agree more .

Now if only people could learn to comprehend your words .

Sharon - posted on 12/26/2009

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Oh yeah,

Anything coming from a "member" with less than um 500 posts? gets discarded automatically?

Sharon - posted on 12/26/2009

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Hey? What if you you guys just disabled flagging and the only way to 'flag' a post would be to copy & paste the text & web addy and PM a mod or admin ?

Sharon - posted on 12/26/2009

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ROTFKMFLMFAO!!!

Translation....
Rolling
On
The
Floor
Kicking
My
Feet
Laughing
My
Fecking* >
Arse
Off

Jodi - posted on 12/26/2009

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And interestingly, folks, there was a post in this thread that was flagged...... I bet you couldn't even guess which one, but yet another one that doesn't deserve to be.

What the heck is wrong with you people?

Johnny - posted on 12/26/2009

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With some people, even if they read this, they will still continue to flag posts they disagree with. They are the "important" people who do not comprehend that their opinions are not actually facts. It will be nice when the wonderful mods on here can dispense with them!

Kate CP - posted on 12/26/2009

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Quoting Krista:

Do you guys have any recourse for that type of abusive flagging? A lot of times, generalized messages tend to go over peoples' heads, because they don't think it applies to them. Can I assume that you can also send them a personal message, telling them to knock it off or their account on CoM will be deactivated?


Unfortunately, the mods don't know who flags the content. We are currently working toward fixing that issue, however. When we do find out who is flagging posts for no reason you can be sure that swift action will be taken to ensure it does not happen again.

Tiffany - posted on 12/26/2009

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I have noticed that, I have been a member for what feels like forever now and it just seems to get worse. I think I have flagged one post the entire time and it was a very racial one if I remember correctly. Some people never grow out of being so catty and it's a shame. I enjoy my real life friends and online friends because they ARE different from me and have different opinions than me. They open my mind to things I never thought about. I am a very blunt person myself but never do I just attack someone, tact is important. Good luck to you on getting the point across, I can't say that I want your job. ;)

Krista - posted on 12/26/2009

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Do you guys have any recourse for that type of abusive flagging? A lot of times, generalized messages tend to go over peoples' heads, because they don't think it applies to them. Can I assume that you can also send them a personal message, telling them to knock it off or their account on CoM will be deactivated?

Kate CP - posted on 12/26/2009

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Tiffany, I am so angry with this that some times I could just spit. I mean...it's like high school! Women are forming little cliques and will flag every single post of one member in particular because they don't like her. I mean, how frickin' petty and immature is that? It's just stupid! *grrr*

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