setting child support

Lena - posted on 12/12/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )

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trying to ckome to a mutual agreement on a amount,for my daughter...thwy provwd paternity,
now the father is trying to keep it out of the system(Florida)..he hasnt lais eyes on her but 1- time,she is 7-yrs old now..dont want nothing to do with her,but it has come to that time where ,child support is a must...I was just wondering?? a fair amount of$$- for a monthly support from him...I dont make very much money at ALL..but Im trying to raise..4- other children....its a shame to say..but all my kkids Fathers"!! are deadbeats....So thata where I stand...shouls I jus let the Atate.hansle it...or what?? I recieve less then 400$- a month for my 14yr old son....So..Im kinda not familar with what would be fair,now a days...I have a ear disease,So I can only afford what the state offers..medical Ins. So...a Lil advice would be helpfuL...feeling Lost!! This is the only reason Im really pursuing child suppoet on these deadbeats...otherwise..We are just fine without them in their lives....

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Jodi - posted on 12/12/2015

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OK, what is fair should not take into consideration that you have 4 children. The father is only responsible for supporting his ONE child. He is also not responsible for supporting you. Only the child that is his.

What is fair would generally take both of your incomes into consideration. If you look at the cost of raising a child, research shows the average cost at about $12,000 a year per child (although obviously the more children you have, the lest the cost is). Each parent would be responsible for 50% of this, so $500 a month child support would not be unreasonable. However, if he is low income, you may be pushing uphill to get that.

To be honest, I think you should just put it in the system and let them calculate it. There are reasons he doesn't want it in the system and the only person getting benefit from it not being in the system is him. In fact, you should be collecting child support for all of them.

Lena - posted on 12/12/2015

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ABSOLUTELY!!!!!! DoVe..Ty..
its hard...but Im moving Forward..I have a Wonderdul Family...full of Positive Support!!

Dove - posted on 12/12/2015

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Of course you should let the state handle it. Should have gotten a court order for custody, visitation, and child support 7 years ago.

If you have four kids and they ALL have deadbeat fathers... I hope you are taking a better look at your life to not repeat the cycle any longer.

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