Several issues with my 5 year old..help please!

Jessica - posted on 02/25/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My almost 5 year old daughter sleeps with her dad and I (I know, I know) & she refuses to fall asleep on her own for one. Even if the room is quiet, she will just do as she pleases. She continues to do whatever she pleases after being disciplined. I don't understand because her father & I have never let her act like this & when she does, there are consequences. So why does she continue to do it????
For two, we are wanting her out of our bed. I have been reading posts about the rewards system and that is something that I am going to try after we go and buy her a new bed. My concern with this is her attitude problem. Most kids will eventually cry it out, not mine. Along with the repeated getting out of the bed, instead of laying back down she has huge tantrums. She kicks walls, she will throw whatever is in reaching distance, and she will scream at the top of her lungs..I deal with this daily, not just at bed time. Her grandma told me that her dad was the exact same way so, it is possible that it's a behavioral disorder stemmed from her father's side..I just don't want to jump the gun and believe that my sweet little girl has a behavioral disorder. There haven't been any changes to our life styles for her to be "acting out" on. This new attitude has come out of no where!

Another issue I've been having recently is her staying asleep. Her dad and I stay up later than her like most any other parents do. After we put her to sleep we get back up and spend time together. If we are not in bed with her, she is back up within an hour or so..and this is where the fighting comes in again. And repeat.

I'm at a loss as far as the behavior, staying in bed, going to sleep on her own & sleeping throughout the night. I am going to try the rewards system do hopefully it might help within a few weeks. Any suggestions or advice would be greatly appreciated!

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Michelle - posted on 02/25/2014

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Get her tested then to make sure instead of just assuming she has it.

Jessica - posted on 02/25/2014

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Michelle- I didn't add in that her father has adhd & her brother has it along with other behavioral disorders. I've been researching it since I knew something was up with my step son. It is hereditary & I had forgotten that most children will show signs around age 2. I haven't read about it in a while so I decided to after I posted this. A lot of her symptoms are symptoms of adhd. The aggressiveness, impulsivity, sleeplessness, drawing negative attention towards herself.

I'm going to clear this up right now to save an argument because I know some people are touchy on the subject:
No, I'm not diagnosing her. No, I am not medicating my 4 year old child. Once she hits the FDA approval age she will only be medicated IF she needs it. My two step children have it, one requires meds the other does not. I am not the type of parent that some other parents call "lazy" because I have a child with adhd on meds and I don't want to raise them.

But yes, I am going to shoot for the rewards system as far as the bed issue. Thanks :)

Michelle - posted on 02/25/2014

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I feel you may have left it too late but I can really only suggest the reward system.
I haven't had to deal with it since all my kids were in their own room since birth.

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