sex while pregnant

Lorraine - posted on 02/21/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )




when did your partner stop having sex with you when you were pregnant, after 3 months he seems to not want to do it any more this does not seem normal in guy's has anyone had the same reaction from their partners do they think there going to hurt the baby?


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Erin - posted on 02/21/2010




Pregnancy sex is the best! We dtd right up to the day of birth with our daughter and I'm sure it will be the same with this one (I'm 23 weeks). It doesn't seem to bother him about the baby being there and you just have to get a little creative in the third trimester ;)

Danielle - posted on 02/21/2010




Never? LOL. My fiance enjoys sex when I'm not pregnant all the way up to the day before I give birth.

Carolee - posted on 02/21/2010




My husband and I have only had sex once since I got pregnant... I'm 18 weeks. He's admitted to me that he is afraid of hurting me and/or the baby. Plus, I've had miscarriages in the past, so he's afraid that he'll accidently do something that could possibly put the pregnancy at risk. Just talk to him about it, and have him talk to your doctor. Plus, some guys just don't want to "go there" when they know their kid is in there. They liken it to having sex in front of the kid, even though the kid has absolutely no idea what's going on and can't see a thing. It's just one of those odd "guy" things.

Lucille - posted on 02/21/2010




I don't worry about that anymore not with him and I'm to old to have anymore kids

Laura - posted on 02/21/2010




My fiance worried about that, but not until I started to show really good. He actually wanted to have sex more..said that me being prego was extremely sexy. There are sex classes that you and your partner can go to so that he can learn that sex won't harm the baby and even teach you comfortable sex positions while pregnant cuz the bigger get, the more uncomfortable sex can be

Lucille - posted on 02/21/2010




no my husband had no trouble with this if it were up him , he would of had sex the day of the birth of the baby. So I had to put my foot down on that one

Alma - posted on 02/21/2010




not only do they think they hurting u and the baby. they think the baby some how feels their penis or see them in action.. so just asure him that the baby can't feel or see anything and that sex is very good for the delivery... most of the time i just had to take it cuz he still didnt understand!!!LOL

Rebecca - posted on 02/21/2010




My husband also thought he was going to hurt our daughter. I just kept reassuring him and we also talked to my OB about it. I think after hearing from her that it would in no way hurt the baby he was fine. I also can verify that it helps start labor!!

Kristi - posted on 02/21/2010




Different people respond in different ways. My husband never seemed to be bothered by it, but that doesn't mean that others won't. And the feelings are legitimate. You might want to sit down with your partner and discuss your feelings. Maybe you can state some current facts about sex during pregnancy. There are lots of articles and stuff out there now. They shouldn't be too hard to find. Maybe your guy just doesn't know the facts but will come around once he realizes there's nothing to worry about.

Keely - posted on 02/21/2010




Hi :)
Me and my partner never stopped having sex from the moment we found out till when i actually gave birth. We found out all the facts eg it cannot hurt the baby and that its actually quiet good for the cervix etc
It got quiet tricky when i started to get bigger but thats when it gets fun as you start experimenting!
Most uys have different issues as to why they wont or dont want intercourse during the pregnancy but the best thing to do is sit down and speak things through!

Emilie - posted on 02/21/2010




My ex husband was never worried about hurting the baby. I guess some men do realize that they are not long enough to reach the baby and even if they were the baby is protected by a sac of water, and the womans cervix is closed so there is no way that they can hurt the baby. Sex during pregnancy is perfectly safe.

Krystal - posted on 02/21/2010




hi i didnt have any problems with that with my man but it is common for men to not want to have sex when their partners are pregnant, they seem to have this fear that if they do they might hurt the baby or the baby might see his penis or they are affraid of coming inside you because they think the baby might swallow it, but all of this is not true, they say that sex during pregnancy is perfectly safe and there is no way of the sperm going near the baby because the baby is sealed in its sack and the penis goes no where near the baby and the cervix is closed up with the plug so it can not see anything. talk to your partner about it and ask him why he feels uncomfortable with it, go to the doctors and get all the information you can about sex during pregnancy and read it with your partner hopefully then it will change his mind on the matter. good luck and best wishes. :)

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my boyfriend didn't mind having sex while i was pregnant but from 6mths it was to uncomfortable for me so we stopped on my first preg and on my second due to bleeding was advised by my doctor to stop for 2weeks and i just stopped for the 9mths to be 100% safe.But some men don't feel comfortable and just reassure hes not going to hurt the baby my boyfriend thought this on my first baby.See how things go maybe ask him why&talk together about it.:)

Jessica - posted on 02/21/2010




I think guys worry about things like that. They don't talk about these things between each other and so your partner is most likely just unsure about whether or not it is safe to do so or he just might feel uncomfortable with it. The only way to no is to talk to him about it. I talk to my partner and we were open and honest the whole time. Things will happen when he is ready. By the end of it you won't keep off you. Which can be great to get things moving along. Hope this helps.

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