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I just found this site while reading my daily devotional. A mom had told of her husband's (stepfather to her child) "one time" touching of her daughter inappropriately. This same exact thing happened to my daughter when she was 9 yrs. old. I was in shock. This behaviour was NOT my husband. We sought counselling from our pastor. OUr pastor NEVER suggested that he move out of the house. My husband successfully manipulated our pastor and me into believing that his behaviour was solely based on his being high and drunk!! two other things I did not know that he was at the time!! He repented of this sinful behaviour and as far as I know he never did it again. This type of person is "really" good at hiding things, something I have painfully learned during the 22 years I have stayed married to him!! There were other "sexual sins" that my husband committed while we have been married and he has repented again and again and the pastor counselled him and "held us together" I considered our pastor a very wise man - but now I know that this was not an area of his expertise! He was really "off course", but I was weak at the time, in love with my husband and in shock. I strongly suggest to that woman that she NEVER go back to that man. My daughter is now married with a child and I never knew until recently when she spoke out, how much she struggled with loving me and hating me all these years for allowing him to stay. ONE TIME does as much damage as more than one time! I am now in the process of divorcing my husband. It's been a long struggle for me as this was a second marriage and I did not want to fail in the eyes of God. Now I am calling on Him to give me the strength to go out on my own and try and repair the damage between my daughter and I. I have two other daughters and we have talked about this over and over. He never touched them and now that they know, they question my decision and it's very difficult to explain. If this happens in any household, get the abuser out! No matter how nice they are or if they tell you it won't happen again. It will - maybe not in the same way - but in another "sexually sinful" way. These "types" of people are all about sex and not the right kind.