sexual dysfunction after childbirth. (dead from the neckdown)

Default - posted on 02/12/2015 ( 12 moms have responded )

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I am considering a sex therapist for my sexual dysfunction of feeling dead from the neck down as in feeling absolutely no pleasurable sensations below the neck. I excercise, eat healthy, soak up the sunlight and go out every Saturday to enjoy myself. When my daughter was born it took 12 months to get back to normal sex meaning virtually pain free. I took vaginal estrogen for about a month and it helped,b but I wasn't completely normal for a year. Now after having my son same thing only the estrogen did NOTHING other than leave a hole in our wallets. I can't keep forcing myself to have painful, or otherwise painful sex. I'm only 24 so I'm wondering what personal experiences have been with sex therapists. Thanks in advance.

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Sarah - posted on 02/12/2015

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If you can't find a gyne, look for a urologist that deals with women only.

Sarah - posted on 02/12/2015

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I did not post that link to tell you to go to the Mayo Clinic but so that you can see this is a real true medical issue. Just because you have had the crappiest year of your life does not mean you have to go without a satisfying sex life. The answer may be as simple as a testosterone patch, or maybe you need a comprehensive plan. Your doctor isn't heartless, he just doesn't know what to say or do to help you. There are doctors out there that can help you.

Default - posted on 02/12/2015

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I've been talking to the obgyn and his nurse which both say a plethora of stupid things to me. Who else could I talk to?

Default - posted on 02/12/2015

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You are corrwct. I have had a shit year, but anti depressants actually make it worse. I've been on Zoloft and Paxil. Which my body violently rejects. Insomnia, hallucinations, a petite loss.. it seems to be a long hall of jacked up dead ends. Like I think my birth control could be killing my libido but I can't stop taking it we are poor and the last SEVERAL times we tried condoms it was so dull we fell asleep! I'm getting kinda desperate here..

Sarah - posted on 02/12/2015

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Are you actually seeing a doctor that specializes in this or is this you general OB/gyne?

Default - posted on 02/12/2015

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Keeps saying dumb shit like give it time and try to relax it's all in your head. Like wtf?!?! I want to hate sex and feel nothing, of course.

Sarah - posted on 02/12/2015

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@Default D, I went back through some of your previous posts. You have been through a lot in the last four months physically and emotionally. I think you can probably get the best help from a doctor that specializes in sexual dysfunction. Not only are you postpartum, you had complications with an IUD and you've had a terrible loss. There may be an element that is psychological. That does not mean this is all in your head, but depression can contribute to problems in the bedroom. You need to see a doctor who can evaluate your whole history and help you find a solution.

Default - posted on 02/12/2015

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I have tried porn, erotica and I get aroused, but then nothing. It's like my junk won't wake the hell up.

Trisha - posted on 02/12/2015

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Sorry, I have never had experience with sex therapists, but have you tried anything as simple as reading arousing novels? Erotica can be quite entertaining. Taking the time to just sit and fantasize will also do wonders for the sex drive.

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