Erika - posted on 01/04/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )
I need advice please. I have a 14 month old daughter and her father and I are together but not exactly together. (We do everything that couples do but we don't use 'boyfriend/girlfriend' because we need to "work on our relationship") I don't let my daughter go anywhere with anyone without me. I am with her 24/7, can’t stand to be away from her. Her father sees her like a week a month, we live 1 ½ hours apart. He doesn’t have a job, doesn’t pay child support, doesn’t give me money for her just because, lives with his mom (I also live with my mom), and has another baby that is about 6 months younger than our daughter by another girl. One of our biggest arguments is that I won’t let her go with him by himself. Now, when he’s around he’s a good father so that’s not the reason why I won’t let her go. When he’s with us I still do most of the things for her such as feeding her, changing her, bathing her, etc. He knows how and does it if I ask him to except for when changing her he won’t put desitin on her or clean IN her private area. He plays with her great except one of his ways of playing with her is kind of lightly hitting the back of her head even though I’ve told him over and over again not to because it makes her hit. So when he does it and she hits back he gets onto her for it. He has a deep voice already so when he raises his voice at her when he gets onto her it scares her and she cries……. We recently got into the argument about him having her by himself and he wants to get her every other weekend, pay me $250 a month for ‘child support’, and him type it up and both of us sign it instead of us going to court. Do any of you have any advice? I can give more information if needed..