shaving her legs

Leah - posted on 09/03/2010 ( 45 moms have responded )

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my 11 year old is wanting to shave her legs. I told her she isnt old enough yet. when is a good age to let her start doing that

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Jennifer - posted on 09/09/2010

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Rather get involved with her where she is, and enjoy the unfolding of her woman hood...this is a wonderful opportunity for 'girl time' together....she is going to either be walking around with a sense of being 'different to her firiends', or do it behind your back....Rather keep the "NO"S" for the more serious stuff. Enjoy the little un-important things and say 'yes' to them. That builds intimate relationship with your child...this will be a good opportunity to teach her self respect for her appearance as a young woman.

Jenn - posted on 09/05/2010

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@Morgan - Krista is right - the colour change and change in thickness has to do with age and hormones, not shaving. When you shave it's basically like giving your leg hair a haircut. Cutting the hair on your head doesn't make it change, neither does shaving.

Krista - posted on 09/04/2010

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Morgan, that change was probably hormonal. Considering that you started shaving right around puberty, I'd bet dollars to donuts that even if you HADN'T shaved, your leg hair would have changed over a few years anyway.

Jenni - posted on 09/03/2010

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My mom told me the same thing at 11. But ALL of the girls in my grade did. I would do it anyways I didn't want to be made fun of by my classmates.

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I was 11.5 the first time I shaved. I only did it cuz my 12 year old cousin convinced me that I needed to.

Talk to her about WHY she wants to do it. If her leg hair is making her uncomfortable w/ her peers, it's time.

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Princess Sara Elizabeth - posted on 02/20/2013

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Well I'd say 12 or 13 my daughter is 11 I only let her shave her legs if your child has a scar I suppose you put cream water and a bandaid then your good to go my 13 yr old son jake well he's a boy so too weird but if he has a hair problem then shave everywhere not eyebrows or arms

Tammy - posted on 09/16/2010

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my 12 year old wants to as well. I don't recall being so developed at that age! She has boob's for crying out loud! She does need to shave armpits. Over the summer I teased her about letting me just pluck the hair she had but now she's starting to look possitively european:)LOL

Dawn - posted on 09/14/2010

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OY, mine too! actually she will be 11 in december (5th grade). she wants to wear make-up, she wants hair highlights, she wants to shave her legs, she wants to grow up sooooo fast... but she is developing much earlier than i did. and she has much hairier legs than i did ather age, and she is starting to feel self-conscious about it. but i told her once she starts, she has to do it every couple of days because the hair will grow back darker and coarser than what she has now. and it may sound like cool and grown-up thing to do, but it's kind of an annoying part of the morning routine. especially when you are short on time, you miss a patch, or you cut yourself. i really would shy away from chemical hair removal for a kid, but that's me. now that summer is behind us, i am trying to put her off for another year. 6th grade seems like that "magical time" of grown-up rites of passage these days. for me it was 7th grade. hard to know what to do with them, whether it's a self-esteem issue, a peer pressure issue, or what. you'll do the right thing. good luck mom!

Pamela - posted on 09/14/2010

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Well it really does depend my daughter wanted to shave hers and she is only nine if your daughter has light non noticable hairs then i wouldnt allow her to shave try explaining to her that as soon as she does start shaving the hair will get thicker and darker in colour howerver if her leg hair is very noticable then i would allow her to shave as she would be very self con about it i hope this helps

Jane - posted on 09/13/2010

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Why is she not old enough? She's definetly old enough to shave her legs. Shaving her legs does not mean she's an adult...it just means she's tired of having hairy legs! Let her shave...she's probably embarassed!

Tiffany - posted on 09/13/2010

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At parents comfort level first.Second I have 2 girls and they both grow at such interesting rates.My daughter Angelica is able to shave and has 2(she is 14)Her sister Destiny who will be 10 is having to now the hair is just so,darn dark.One is blond and the other dark haired.So,at any rate when is up 2 U!!!

Bethanie - posted on 09/13/2010

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My mom just didn't want me using a razor! Her solution was to give me Nair! I was perfectly satisfied! I'm 23 and that wasn't until I was 12 and in the 7th grade! Cheerleaders started shaving in 6th grade and then so did all the other girls. Pants were all I'd wear until my mom agreed to comprimise with me! I say go for it! If you don't let her she WILL do it herself!

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Teach her how, explain that it is a hassle, and let her go. My daughter shaved her legs the first time (without permission) at 9 or 10. Didn't do it again until the summer before she turned 12. You have to pick your battles and this one is not worth fighting over.

Jana - posted on 09/11/2010

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I myself was 12... so i think she is just about ready too.... although my mom said i should wait i really didnt want to because the reason for wanting to at 12 was because a boy one day had said to me you need to go home and shave your legs.. and today kids are doing things even earlier and to this day i still remember that ... so i think if she is asking she is ready i wouldnt want her to be picked on over something so silly that is going to happen soon enough anyway...... thought this might help from personal experience

Ang - posted on 09/09/2010

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I started shaving my legs at 11 years old. If the hair on her legs is dark enough that it makes her uncomfortable to wear shorts or skirts then I believe the time is right. I wore jeans for almost a year straight before I started shaving my legs because the hair on my legs was black as night and I was embarrassed to show my legs to others.

Lynda - posted on 09/09/2010

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Lots of great posts here - 11 years old is a time when peer pressure can have a significant effect on self-esteem. Shaving in order to keep out of the crosshairs of teasing by others is a small price. I would be careful about using Nair or other chemicals - anything you put on your skin soaks into your body very quickly. Check out the safety ratings of products at http://www.cosmeticsdatabase.com to make sure you are using something safe.

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I started around then 6th grade or so. I didn't often and my mom probably didn't know for a while, (I just used my sister's razor).

If she's starting to grow thicker hair on her legs and feels self conscious about it why not? It's better then having her change in the bathroom stalls for PE because she's embarrassed.

Jenn - posted on 09/08/2010

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@Ina - not true. Shaving does not change the colour of your hair. And it may seem like the hair is not as soft because instead of being a soft tapered end that's never been cut, it will then be blunt and seems less soft. Any change in colour and/or texture is due to hormonal changes that happen around this age.

Rhonda - posted on 09/08/2010

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If she is hairy, let her shave away! I have dark brown hair and started shaving around that time. Kids at my school use to say things to me about my legs... kids can be mean. There might be more to why she wants to shave. :)

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I didn't shave until age 12 and I was embarrassed. I would wear sweat pants in gym class when it was 90 degrees outside. I never wore a skirt without thick tights. I don't think that's healthy.

Ina - posted on 09/08/2010

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My daughter has been asking me too, she has blonde hair on her legs, and is 12 1/2. I told her when she is 13.. though I could let her now I guess. I just know the first time she does it, it is not longer blonde and soft, but well what all of us have dealt with for years. Then it will have to be a every few days thing... ugh. Great question because I have been debating myself on this very same thing.

Kate - posted on 09/07/2010

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it's hard to stop them at that age "all my friends do it" i am sure you heard that. however, if you aren't comfortable letting her then maybe next year at age 12. girls grow up way too fast these days..i know i did!

Heather - posted on 09/07/2010

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That is not to young I let my daughter start shaving when she was 9.5 she did everything early by then it was long and dark but had many talks with her first

Elysha - posted on 09/06/2010

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Personaly I was a fuzzy child. I think that you should as soon as she is embarrassed you should alow it.

I know that I loved skirts, but didn't wear dresses for a very long time even after I could shave because I had developed a small complex. I hope that helped.

Sandra - posted on 09/06/2010

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Since girls mature faster now, and just depends on the girl and why she wants to. Maybe her legs are itchy or maybe she feels unattractive when she wears shorts or skirts. Most girls probably shave them when they have an interest in boys, or maybe just to feel pretty and probably her friends are doing it too. Better for you to show her how and let he see what its like. It's only leg hair, not like dying her hair orange. I allowed my daughter to do things that I didn't do at her age, but it helped our relationship, because I asked her why and showed her how. I wanted her to feel positive about being a girl/young woman.

User - posted on 09/06/2010

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I was allowed to shave the day before I started 6th grade. I think that is a good time because they are entering middle school and the teen years.

Sarah - posted on 09/06/2010

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Yeah, it's her body and I don't think she is too young to make that decision for herself, though I agree that it would be a good idea to find out what is motivating her to shave. I started when I was 11 or 12 quite simply because my legs were damned hairy and one day I just noticed that they had really gotten away on me and thought, uh-oh, that's not the look I'm going for... It had nothing to do with impressing boys, or getting teased by other girls; I just wanted to look grown up because I felt grown up like girls tend to feel at that age. I didn't really stop to question why women shaved their legs until many years later.

I also received the warning from my mom that "once you start, you'll have to shave for the rest of your life"...but honestly, that's not true. That's a little extreme...I mean, it's body hair, not an experiment with heroin. LOL...If your daughter gets sick of the obligation, or goes through a hippy phase, she can always quit shaving and go back to being hairy. :)

It's just hair, but afterall, to your daughter this may be a really big thing in her life, so what a wonderful excuse for a mother-daughter spa night. You could get her a nice razor of her own (or the supplies for whatever removal method you decide on) and show her the ropes while spending some quality time with your little girl who is growing up. So exciting. :)

Renae - posted on 09/05/2010

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To be honest, and yes this is from someone who doesn't have a daughter, but, I think whenever she is old enough that it starts to bother her. I remember being in grade 7 (which is 11 turning 12 years old here) and all of the other girls were shaving their legs and had been for about a year. I am now 30 so this was 20 years ago. I was the only one who wasn't allowed to shave and I had long black hair!

My strict religious mother thought that shaving legs was to attract boys and didn't want me doing it. I eventually stole a razor out of her packet and just did it while she was out. I remember I called a friend from the bathroom when I put cuts all over my legs because I didnt know how to do it or to use cream. I eventually figured it out and continued shaving my legs and wore long pants in front of my mother. It actually took her about a year to notice! LOL :)

Really I dont see why its an issue. If it makes them feel more confident and stops the other girls making fun of them then why not? Talk to her, find out her reasons for wanting to and come to a mutual compromise. Also I'm not sure shaving is best for the skin, perhaps a hair removal cream to start with? I am a strict waxer now and have been since about 20.

Michelle - posted on 09/05/2010

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I wanted to start early. I ended doing it in secret and one day i took a chunk off my shin and still have the scar to prove it at 24 yrs old! If you think she might do what i did then teach her, it's better than having an accident! Trust me! Or iff you really don't want her to do it have a waxing night and that'll probably teach her to wait! Good luck

Janine - posted on 09/05/2010

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my 12 year old is the same to be honest shaving is not the way as will grow back thicker but if she is really that urgent to do it as im afraid they seem to be nowadays use veet hair removal cream as its kinder on her legs and lasts longer xx

Amy - posted on 09/05/2010

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I let my daughter start shaving at 11 when she really wanted to, after giving her all the lectures about it that didn't change her mind. No harm done. I would save your No's for the bigger stuff, there are plenty of those coming up, I don't think leg shaving is one of them. If it makes her feel better and less self conscious, let her do it, she's going to have to start some time.

User - posted on 09/05/2010

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honestly thats a good age for a young girl to start shaveing her legs ...when they want to start shaveing at like the age of nine then i would tell them to wate untill they get a little older....but 11 is about right thats the preteen years ya know so...just let her go just dont let her do it the first time by herself she might just end up with a leg held up by badades lol

Diane - posted on 09/04/2010

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when ever there is noticable hair on her legs were you can see it from a distance i would have her start shaveing

Morgan - posted on 09/04/2010

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I disagree with that my hair was blonde and fine, but after a few years of shaving my hair is now almost black and very thick.

Jenn - posted on 09/03/2010

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I agree with the others that if she's asking then it's time. And it is a myth (just in case anyone thinks this) that if you shave it will come in darker and thicker. I mean, if you think about it that makes no sense - if that were the case many a balding man would be out shaving their heads in order to grow in some thicker hair! LMAO!!!!

Amy - posted on 09/03/2010

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It depends on how dark the hair is. Is it dark, or is she asking because her friends are shaving? I was 11-12 when I started, but my grandma bought me an electric razor. It was safer and because I was younger, I didn't need to use a regular razor. I agree, if possible use a safer option like nair or an electric razor until a regular razor is necessary.

Schyla - posted on 09/03/2010

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if she's asking she's old enough unless of course there isn't any hair on her legs there would really be no point I started shaving at 11 she's not too young if she's aware of it!

Medic - posted on 09/03/2010

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I started around 10 WITHOUT my moms permission. Just because you told her no does not mean she wont do it anyways, you don't know whats being said at school.

Bo Lynn - posted on 09/03/2010

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I wanted to when I was 13 because I could see the hairs growing and my mom kept saying No. But that didn't keep me from the razor. She told me once I start that I'll have to do it the rest of my life. Anything to shut the girls up at school!

If her hairs are dark or long enough to be noticeable I would show her how it's done. I wouldn't want her to learn like I did. Ow. :p

Alison - posted on 09/03/2010

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I would not say no to an 11 year old. If she is asking, it is because she is self-conscious. Help her out. It'll make her feel very grown up - great opportunity to give her some additional responsibilities around the house!

Morgan - posted on 09/03/2010

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I dont think 11-12 is too young.
If shes wanting to do it teach her how to do it right and safely. I started shaving around that age too, I dont see a problem.

Cheyenne - posted on 09/03/2010

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well if she has blonde hair ,u could wait. blonde hair isnt easy to see. but i shaved my legs when i was about 11 or 12. my mom showed me how to do it and when i felt ready i did it. actually you should try nair first and see what you guys think. its embarrassing having hairy legs, i know. i have dark hair so it was easy to see. my mom taught me everything when i was 9 because thats when i started my period. so just talk to her about it and make a compromise.

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