Lynda - posted on 06/12/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )
My 40+ daughter has recently told me "I am not like you and I have never been like you" . Well the first part is right. She married one of the strangest men I have ever met. Don't get me wrong. The marriage has been good, (I think) it has lasted 18 years. I also can say that I love my son-in-law but I do NOT like him! Does that make sense.? He is wealthy and takes good care of his family, no complaints there. But my counselor says he is a woman hater. I know, if I have a counselor, what am I doing on here.? I need to know if anyone else has this problem or if I am hurting for something that is all in my head. Here is what he does. When his friends are around, he makes derogatory comments either about me or his father in law under the guise of "being funny". Hurtful things. He has never spoken to me in a respectful tone of voice. His tone is always condescending. He disrespects me in front of my grandchildren and it is starting to show. He loves to put down my daughter in the same way. He believes that money thrown her way will solve anything. He has a few friends from his high school years but I believe he has kept them because they aren't in the same social class as he and it makes him feel better. Well now my daughter is turning out more like him than like herself. She has become pragmatic to a fault and emotions have gone out the window. My husband and I are not well off and at a very elderly age we are still working to keep a roof over our heads. But we will not ask him for money unless we pay it right back and that is still not much over 100.00. I need to know if I am crazy or what I can do to get my daughter back. She will not speak to me now because I have asked her to show respect to me. Guess the answer is no?