Ashley - posted on 10/25/2012 ( 13 moms have responded )
Here's my story from beginning to end...I was living with my daughter's father. I left him when he admitted to cheating on me. I moved in with my sis who is in the military. I placed my daughter's father on child support. When that happened, he filed for custody. My sis was getting ready to pcs to another state and i was looking for a place to stay. The apartments i could afford were in bad areas. Daughter's father offer to let me and our daughter move back in with him. A week later we had our custody court date. I was granted physical custody and we had joint custody. Child's father had reasonable visitation. We moved in together, because i thought it would be great for our daughter. Huge mistake!!! Fast forward to September, we get into a fight, he asked me to leave and never return. During this time, I was not working and my family had left state. Didnt know anybody but my childs father. Didnt have no place to go,but the state where my family was. I temporarily moved near family and a few weeks later, received a letter for violating a court order. Daughter's father file court paperwork two days after he put me out. The state where my childs father was living, you have to give 30 days notice before you can leave. I couldnt give a notice and wait 30 days because I didnt have nowhere to go in that state. My child was 12 months old and breastfeeding. I did notify the court in writing and my childs father knew where i was headed when he put me out. Court date was beginning of October, I didnt have a lawyer, my daughters father did. Everyone in the courtroom knew his lawyer including the judge. Daughter's father lawyer spoke for him. Judge didnt want to hear nothing i had to say. The lawyer and judge knew each other, and the judge couldnt look me in my eyes when he was stating i had reasonable visitation and daughters father had temporary custody of a breastfed baby. I felt ambushed....Fast forward, i had to transfer my child to her father two days after court. Daughters father told me i had to wait a week to see my child. When i finally see her, he threatens me. He tells me, if i breastfeed our daughter he will tell the court and have my visitation cease. He refuse to tell me what daycare she is in and who's picks her up. She had a doctors appt, i wanted to attend and he refuse to tell me that info. My daughter is not the same. Breastfeeding was stop abruptly and my daughter seems to be in a daze. Stopping breastfeeding abruptly can cause emotional problems to a child. It hurts to see my daughter in that state. My childs father refused to take my breastmilk. Weaning a child is a process there is no way my child took whole milk over night. Her father says i can only see her once a week. Thats not reasonable visitation to me. I feel like i have no rights to my child anymore and i dont know what to do.