Renee - posted on 12/11/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
Hello all, I am new to this site and would just love to hear some other women's opinion on something that is bothering me. My husband has two older children from a previous marriage. His daughter actually had her first child one week before our second daughter together was born. We also have a 2 almost 3 year old daughter together. His son did not come to visit either of my babies at birth, and both were born at 31 weeks and in the NICU for over 5 weeks. Well that is in the past, but now that birthdays are coming around it is starting to all come back around. He showed up 2 hours late to my first daughters birthday and didn't bring a gift. Two weeks ago, my husband's granddaughter (his daughter's baby) turned 1. His son came to the party and had bought a new kid's four wheeler for her. Well the next weekend was my second daughter's first birthday. He just didn't show up to the party because he had been out drinking the night before with his friends. I ignored it at the time because I was going to enjoy my little girl's birthday, but it really, really hurts my feelings for my child. She is the sweetest thing ever and doesn't deserve to be treated that way I feel. My family is the polar opposite of that and I was raised that you treat all children the same, especially at birthdays, holidays, etc. I don't expect that he love my children the same as he does his sister's child, who he was raised with, I know he doesn't, but for their first birthdays you could at least make an effort, they are just children and as they get older they are going to notice themselves and that breaks my heart. Should I not feel this way? My husband is mad at me because I told him this bothers me.