Should daycare teachers provide advice or just follow your directions?

Jocelyn - posted on 08/18/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )




What do you expect from your daycare teacher? Would you welcome unsolicited advice (in the best interest of the child) if it went against your directions, or would you be affronted?

This question is for moms whose young children attend daycare.


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Jocelyn - posted on 09/05/2012




I was curious in general. There have been a few instances when I wasn't sure if I should speak up and one involved feeding schedules, another about a child's lack of confidence. I am a daycare teacher and from experience I have seen negative consequences of regulating an infant's feeding schedule too strictly. I believe in feeding on demand, but I have orders from parents to feed their infants less frequently or a lesser amount than what they need. New parents might read something in a book then decide to force it onto their new child. I have mentioned it casually that the child is fussy/hungry to no avail and am wondering if I should continue (which might harm the working relationship) or just follow orders. Parents are filled with pride (as a mother I am too), kind of a "this is my child not yours". So my question is, if you gave specific feeding instructions for your infant, and you already supported your feeding program to your daycare teacher (not bothered by your child crying) would you feel affronted if your daycare teacher said, "There are long-term side effects to withholding food from an infant. Not responding to hunger cues makes children more fussy and demanding. The constant crying creates an adrenaline that deteriorates the brain. Malnutrition can affect growth at this critical time. The constant hunger forces natural survival instincts to kick in which can create a lifelong habit of over-eating. I believe the feeding schedule you've implemented is harming your child."

Amy - posted on 08/18/2012




Daycare teacher? Or daycare provider? I mean ultimately I would need more information but if it's a daycare teacher I would expect them to follow the schools philosophies and not cater to my kids. But if it's a daycare provider I would like them to follow my directions but when interviewing providers I would of made sure that they had similar philosophies and/or would respect my wishes.

Johnny - posted on 08/18/2012




I generally appreciate the information from my daughter's daycare/preschool teachers. I'm not sure that they've ever given me advice, nor have they ever done anything with her that goes against my personal wishes. Before she started the program, I was aware of their discipline techniques (which well-matched my own) and their philosophies around child development are in agreement with mine. She's been in the program for a year and I have no concerns. I asked a lot of questions when l was looking for a place, and made sure that they didn't have extremely different ways of doing things before I chose a place.

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