Should I allow my baby's father to take her to his current girlfriend's house where he now lives?

Gina - posted on 01/06/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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So the story is: My baby's father was in a on and off relationship before me. While they were broken up, we met and I got pregnant. As far as I know while I was pregnant she was out of the picture. We lived together for the entire time I was pregnant. Shortly after our daughter was born he left me for her again. We agreed I would have to met her before our daughter would be allowed to be around her. However, when that time came, he changed his mind about it and didn't want us to meet. He moved straight out of my place into hers. They still are constantly on and off and he ends up sleeping on my couch some nights. She has a 7 year old daughter that he has told me they argue infront of. I don't want our daughter to go to the girlfriend's house where he currently lives because I don't want them arguing infront of our daughter like they do her daughter. We haven't done any leagal arrangments yet. I feel like since he is on and off (which consists of her getting mad and kicking him out) with the girl and argues with her why should I allow my daughter to be around that. I've told him he could get her anytime and take her to his mother's since we all live close to each other but that's not good enough for him. What should I do?

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Firebird - posted on 01/07/2012

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Honestly, the arragement you've suggested seems perfectly reasonable. Like Shaz says, there is probably a reason he doesn't want you to meet his girlfriend and that's never a good sign. You should not be expected to let your daughter go into a house where they are always fighting. Kids don't need that kind of negative environment. Also since she's always kicking him out, I wouldn't call this a serious relationship, and your daughter does not need to be exposed to women coming in and out of her dad's life like that. Explain all this to him and tell him that if he has his daughter's best interest at heart, he won't put her into that kind of situation.

Shaz - posted on 01/07/2012

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i think if you stick to your guns about meeting her first then he wont push it. theres obviously a reason he doesnt want you to meet so he will probably back off. and i would go and have a proper leagal arrangement made or at the very least seek legal advice

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