Should I b upset about my husband, just now telling me he cheated when we first started dating?

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Michelle - posted on 03/13/2014

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You do have every right to be upset. It's also up to you if you can let it go and move on. Maybe talking to a counsellor would help you work out your feelings.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/13/2014

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It really depends. How far into the relationship was it? Were you both knowingly committed to the relationship and discussed not seeing other people? How did you come about finding out about this? ANd why is he telling you now?

D - posted on 03/13/2014

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This was about 5 yrs ago, (long time, i know) but it still hurts like hell.I feel deceived and upset that he could carry on like, oh well get over it we were dating back then. Ive been nothing but faithful, true and honest to this man.. the only reason he confessed was because i told him something had been bugging me about our marriage, i kept getting the feeling that as good as a life i had something was wrong. if it hadnt been for me asking i would have never known.

Michelle - posted on 03/13/2014

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Natasha: My ex husband cheated on me AFTER we were married so being married doesn't all of a sudden fix them from being a cheater. My ex still came home to me every night but before he came to our bed he was with someone else.
I personally wouldn't be able to trust him again, especially since he's only just telling you (I don't know how long you have been married though) but I had a creep of an ex husband and have vowed to never be in that position again.
Why should cheating be ok if you are "just dating" rather than married? To me if you are in a committed relationship then you don't cheat.

Natasha - posted on 03/13/2014

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to be honest everyone makes mistakes at least your married to him and no one can take that from you he comes home to you every night my husband did the same thing several times before we were married but now I know he comes home to our bed every night and my children will always make daddy think before act at least I hope lol I know it hurts but I wouldn't let it bother you to much no reason to stress yourself out for something that wasn't in your control just try to rem what I said hes all yours now and no one elses you could fume on this and just ruin your marriage all together trust me I know

Michelle - posted on 03/13/2014

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How long ago? I would be upset but if it's many years than try to work it out.

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