Should I be concerned that my 20mth old is not talking yet.

Randi - posted on 02/11/2012 ( 10 moms have responded )

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My daughter has hit almost every other milestone before she was expected to hit them. With the exception to 2 of them. She is only recently learning how to walk and she does not talk yet.

For everything she just makes a grunting noise to get what she wants. Even if we label what she wants, then when she asks for it the next time we ask her what she wants. Is this something I should be concerned about or seeking help for?

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Cheyenne - posted on 02/14/2012

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my son didnt talk either. we had him evaluated and he does have a mild hearing loss. but because we lost our mefical we cant do anything for him right now. he turned 2 couple weeks ago. for the past couple months he has been "talking" his first real word was "star" because i showed him shapes and said them all th time. now he has a few more words but you can barley tell what they are. most of them are shapes, triangle is"tri" circle is"ircle" oval is" bowl sound" and he can say star. but we just tell him everything slowly because he cant ear and processes things differently

Pamela - posted on 02/14/2012

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Have you tried teaching her to speak? I used a method suggested to me by my sister who was an RN.



As you say a word to teach it to your child, take her hand and place it over your lips so she feels what the word feels like. Then say the word and place her hand over her lips so she can feel her lips making the same pattern. Repeat this 2 or 3 times with each word you are teaching. It only takes a few seconds. Do it each time the word comes up and you should see some progress.



I did this with my sons and they were answering the telephone when they were between 2 and 3 years old (because children love to talk on phones at that age) and I constantly got comments about how clearly they spoke. People were always surprised when I told they how old the child answering the phone was.



Try it. It should work.

Amy - posted on 02/12/2012

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Is she babbling? Does she say anything? Is she responding to you when you call her name? Does she understand when you ask her to do something? If she's not doing any of those things that you probably should get her evaluated.



My daughter will be two next month and speaks less then 5 words. She can sign quite a few words and according to birth to 3 understands as much as a 5 year old. We had an assessment done on her about 3 months ago and they basically told us she'll talk when she's ready. One of the things they had us do was babble to her but change the beginning sound for example ma ma ma, ba ba ba, da da da, they were looking to see if she possibly had speech apraxia. If you are concerned speak to your pediatrician but as with everything else each child develops differently. My son at the age of 18 months knew his alphabet and was speaking sentences. Good luck!

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Dayna - posted on 02/14/2012

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dont worry she will talk when ready my son talked early at 1 but my daughter is 2 and still not talking but im not worryed as she will when she is ready so you cant rush everything ok

Sarah - posted on 02/14/2012

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Next time she grunts when she wants something do not give it to her, if you have an idea what she wants ask her. Our grandson was same way, he could even go in a fridge and take out what he wanted but would no say anything, he was just grunting. It took me only a week to get him to ask for milk or juice and yes and no to many other foods and stuff. I started with: would you like juice or milk and keep repiting it until he said milk or juce. His other grandparents made a big fuss and had him tested, he was perfectly normal and it turned out to be their fault, as soon as he pointed at something and grunted they gave it to him.

Pamela - posted on 02/13/2012

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I have 2 20 month old sons and they do not say much.



I feel that they do understand alot.



They say: mamma, baba, dadda and respond to a few commands.



Do not worry......my sister's kids walked at 16 months and really did not talk until two.

Wendy - posted on 02/13/2012

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My son was like this, too. I couldn't wait for the day I would hear him talk. Now he won't stop! If she understands what you say, I wouldn't worry too much. However, as a mom, that's usually easier said then done.

Roxana - posted on 02/13/2012

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yes take her to the first word clinics or talk to your doctor she might need intervention dont wast time.

Randi - posted on 02/13/2012

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My daughter does respond when you ask her something such as go and get the bear. She turns when you call her name. She use to say "that". She babbles all the time but it is mostly grunting. I suppose you are both right she will do it in her own time. Thank-you Lydia and Amy for your feed back and helping to put my mind at ease.

Lydia - posted on 02/12/2012

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Some kids just start talking late and there is no worries, but if you're worried I would take her to a pediatrician to get her checked. Sometimes the kid may have a hearing problem and that has major influence on speech development. It would be good to find out if there is a physical reason, if everything is fine and she understands you and responds when you tell her something simple like "bring this toy" than I wouldn't worry to much. Keep talking and reading lots to her and she'll talk when she's ready. If you have the feeling that she also doesn't understand when you speak to her than I would mention this to the doctor also.

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