Should I be upset that my husband wants to go on vacation with his father and grandfather rather than me and our 2 sons ages 5 and 1?

Kelly - posted on 05/28/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Granted, I dont care that he spends time with his family, but I believe that since he does not get one day off when he works in the summer, he should want to spend it with his family. He is a seasonal worker, so in the summer he does bust his butt, however, this is at the expense of not taking one day or even hour off for 6-8 months. He works late, sometimes on the weekends and may even miss his son's preschool graduation, which I told him he wasn't going to miss. So, I do believe that when he gets the week off, which we are told every year what week it is, he should spend it with us and go with his father on a different time. Am I overreacting or worrying too much? My husband does love us and try to do things for us. But sometimes his idea of doing things for us is making money to support us. I am trying to convince him that money isnt everything and time is sometimes more valued.

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Kelly - posted on 05/28/2012

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I do agree with you, but we live next door to his family. He sees them everyday. He sometimes spends more time with them, than he does with our children. His grandfather still hunts with him every deer and turkey season. He told me that I could take the boys somewhere, but not spend hardly any money because his trip is paid for. I told him that isnt fair just because his family can afford to pay for him, while my family cant. And no he wont take the boys because he has no patience to deal with them. he has never had them alone overnight without me there.

Sarah - posted on 05/28/2012

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Maybe he could divide his break between you and the kids and his family 50:50? I can understand why he would want that special time with his father and grandfather. What a wonderful memory he could have from that. Especially if they're aging (which I would assume at least the Grandfather would be). You never know how much time you have with people. Maybe he just wants to have a really great memory. Maybe suggest he take your sons so it could be a male bonding time for all the generations and you could go and do a girls vacay with a friend/sister/mother/aunt, etc. I agree that it's important to spend time together, but it's also important to remain connected to your history.

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