Should I be worried?

Misty - posted on 01/28/2012 ( 23 moms have responded )

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I have a daughter who is almost 2 and a son at 4 1/2 months. I have just discovered Im pregnant for the 3rd time. I was given the creazette pill by my local family planning clinic,despite tellin them I was taking it when I conceved my first child. I don't know what to do has this happend to any one else? please help. X

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Gwen - posted on 01/31/2012

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First off, Planned Parenthood does not care what happens to you. The founder of Planned Parenthood was also involved in the Eugenics program; the forced sterilization of thousands of women all over this country.

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Janessa - posted on 02/03/2012

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Don't ever worry about what other people think, their opinion doesn't matter. If you believe you can do it, that is all that matters. I have 4 children my oldest is 6 and my youngest 9 months, if you do the math, you see that I haven't ever reached a 2 year gap. I love it, and my children our a blessing in my life. Not saying it is easy, but with God's and my husband's help it is the most wonderful experience of all. You should never have to explain yourself to anyone.

Carly - posted on 02/02/2012

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we have 6 kids and gets people saying things i take no notices i was on creazette when i got pregnant with 2 of mine.

Dorothy - posted on 02/01/2012

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1st Congrats on your pregnancy.



My cousin is pregnant with her 2nd surprise. The shock wears off and you will be happy about this baby soon. :)



Take the time to enjoy your 2nd baby while he is the youngest and get ready for the rollercoaster of 2 under 2. It is crazy and hard and according to everyone who has done it totally worth it.



Oh and ignore the haters. ;)

Sheri - posted on 02/01/2012

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Congrats!!! How exciting yet scary at the same time. I have 7 children. Our oldest is 18 and our youngest are twins that are 12 now. My husband & I have been in your shoes. I remember when they were all young! We had twin infant boys, a 1 yrs old boy, a 2yr old girl, a 4yr old boy, a 5yr old girl & a 6 yr old boy! Talk about chaos but I lived through it- you will too. Like others have said take the help whenever it is offered and know there will be times when you want to scream but that happens to people even when they have a couple of children! So it is normal! Don't worry about what people think. You will hear people talk but that is their opinion. Don't let them discourage you.You will be a great mommy for the 3rd time!!! How exciting! Congratulation again!

Jenni - posted on 01/31/2012

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It does happen to other women yet now that it has hindsight doesn't really help except find a doctor you can trust and who helps you!

The problem is now the third child coming, give yourself and your husband time to obsorb what has happen and have lengthy discussings on your options.

You both have to be comfortable in what you want to do and yes you have them very close together in age yet so do many other mums.

Explain to your husband what you will be expecting from him, not just finance, help around the house, looking after the others, cooking etc.

Goodluck and know your decision is most important here

Billie - posted on 01/31/2012

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My question is, if you had already gotten pregnant while taking that pill once, why would you accept it again? You knew there was a chance of getting pregnant, why didn't you DEMAND a different birth control option??

Andreina - posted on 01/31/2012

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Yes, I am like Sherri. What was your worry? :)

People judging you are helping you to raise your kids? to feed them? Are they actually having kids? At the end you should not even care about the answers, dear.

I am a proud mother of 3. My son will be 20 this February and my youngest girl will be 4 in March. Tell me about unplanned pregnancies... But I can tell you, I was able to chose 3 times, and each time I decided to love my child as nothing else mattered. I have no rest, I work like crazy. And I would do it all over again.



I know it is shock when you know you are pregnant, but don't put your energy on that. Think ahead, as Sherri said, think positive, look for support. And one day you will also find that your were blessed with 3 angels :)



You will be fine, we all know you will. Enjoy pregnancy, enjoy every second with your children. Be Happy.

Mazy - posted on 01/31/2012

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I hated what the pill did to me, so we got off of it & just used condoms, but oops! Now we are pregnant with our third as well! I currently have a 2.5 & a 13 mnoth old (boys), and the third is due right after the third birthday of my oldest. I'm a little worried, but the age span is similar to what my mom handeled with me & my siblings, so I know it can be done. I look incredibly young for my age, so I get some snide remarks, and I think any mom with more than two kids is going to get that. I was terrified of the baby when I first found out since I swore that I would only have two...but after my husband & I picked out names, we fell in love with the idea. CONGRATS to you Mama!!

Lori - posted on 01/31/2012

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Congrats on your 3rd. There will be a little bit of an adjustment period, but you will be fine. I have 3 boys. They were literally 4 years and 4 days apart from youngest to oldest. My youngest 2 are 16 months apart. It was hard at first because my middle son was fairly sick the day my youngest was born. He was sick for about 4 days after, and just wanted his mommy while I was trying to nurse my youngest. But it all worked out. My youngest is almost 21 months now, and the boys get along for the most part. There are days they fight, but boys will be boys! You can do it. Btw, I researched strollers for the longest time, because I knew it was going to get well used, and possibly abused. I ended up buying Gracos Quattro tour duo, and absolutely love it! It is a little heavy, but I am so used to it now, that it doesn't bother me. I liked it because it holds bigger kids too! Most double strollers only hold 40 lbs each seat. But this one holds 50 lbs in the front, and 40 lbs in the back. This allowed my oldest to sit in the front seat if needed. And this way too he doesn't feel left out. Good luck and congrats again.

Kaitlyn - posted on 01/30/2012

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Definitely do not be concerned with anyone who may judge you. They are not worth your time. My 3rd child (4 1/2mo. also) is our "surprise" baby. I was nursing my 8 mo/o DD and on the mini pill (taking it religiously too) when I found out I was pregnant. My oldest is almost 5 so not quite as close as all of yours will be, but still all under 5 right now. Life happens. Not everything we plan goes accordingly. You can't sweat the small stuff and all that is out of your control. You were taking steps to prevent pregnancy, it is not your fault it failed. What's important now is that you prepare as best you can for the arrival of your newest addition and you show him/her all the same love you show your first 2 children. It will absolutely be tough and a major adjustment for all of you, but it is not impossible and you will just have to constantly remind yourself that things WILL get easier...and IT WILL. You just have to be patient.



For us, the 3rd child has been a piece of cake as far as us adjusting to him and now being "outnumbered." It is like second nature the 3rd time around (especially since it was so soon after our DD) and nothing really seems difficult in regards to him and his care. It has been more difficult dealing with DD adjusting to his arrival and her lack of understanding the situation. Overall though, IMO, going from one to two was more of an adjustment.

Good luck and enjoy the journey once again!

Misty - posted on 01/30/2012

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Just a general reply to all the comment I have recived. firstly my family planning clinic keep telling me they have no appointments avalible for me to get the implanon put in. Secondly, Adoption? I don't agree with it I will be giving birth to this baby and my other children will know there is another baby joining our family,so I couldn't possibly give my child to someone else. Thirdly,I love being a mummy,yes the pregnancy was a shock as it would be to anybody who falls pregnant so soon an while taking contraception. Now tho,Im looking at baby name books and catalogues for clothes and prams and all the other thing im going to need! :-D

Christine - posted on 01/30/2012

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I have three daughters who are 7 years, 2 years, and 9 months. Most of the time I have people commenting on how well behaved my girls are and admiring me for being able to corral three little girls :) Every once in awhile I have some smart aleck who tells me how crazy I am, and I just tell them that's why God blessed me with the girls and not the critical person. Then I add the icing on the cake and add that we still want one more :-D I will be honest that going from 2 to 3 is very challenging as suddenly there are more children than parents, but you do adjust and it's very rewarding :) I wouldn't give my girls up for anything, and the oldest two dote on and spoil the youngest with lots of love, affection, and attention.

Catriona - posted on 01/30/2012

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Congratulations! Glad that you are now excited about baby no.3 on the way! I can imagine how anxious you were when you first found out.

Maybe whien he/she is born you might think of a long term contraception method like the implant or coil? Odds are you'll likely forget to take the pill! I'm on long term because with my busy household i know for sure i would forget and then i'd be really sorry!

Best of luck with everything :)

Janet - posted on 01/30/2012

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do u want the child??? that's the first question - secondly there are options - curette, adoption etc - this has not happened to me but perhaps u should try implanon as this has a better contraception rate - never heard of the other one.

Donna - posted on 01/30/2012

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I think you will do fine. My cousin has 3 girls in 3 years and 1 day. My neighbor had 3 boys in 34 months. They both did fine and the kids ended up so close. They will all grow up together. Congrats.

Kaitlin - posted on 01/30/2012

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I hear you. My children will be 3 under 3, and they were planned, and people still give me the stink eye. Excuse ME but this is my family, not yours.

You're going to do great. Everyone I know who has more than two children has said that the switch from one child to two children was more difficult, and that just adding a third wasn't bad at all. You can do it!

Misty - posted on 01/30/2012

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Thank you both for the advice,I am starting to get more excited now. I am looking forward to the scans and the shopping! I havn't told anyfriends yet tho,or family for that matter I don't know why. Xx

Bonnie - posted on 01/29/2012

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It's probably the initial shock that has you worried. I would be shocked too if it were me. You will get through it all though. If family and friends want to help you, let them. Don't worry what other people think and say, they are not you and either way there will always be someone with something negative to say.

Sherri - posted on 01/28/2012

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Yes people probably will judge but you ignore them. It isn't there life or there business. 2nd get a great support system in place ahead of time to help you be able to cope with 3 children so young. I won't even pretend it is going to be easy and you aren't going to want to rip your hair out some days.



However. the rewards will also be amazing. Please take any and all help if it is offered you will need it and it will be a lifesaver. There are days you will need it for your sanity and possibly your children's safety.



Know though once you get through the first couple of years it will get so much easier and it will be great that they are all so close in age. They will always have playmates and will be in the same age toys etc.



Try and focus on the positive things.

Misty - posted on 01/28/2012

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I guess Im afead of people judging me and I keep thinking I won't be able to cope with 3 young children.

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