Anna - posted on 09/27/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )
I am not a mom. I am a college student and the Nanny of 3 boys. We are in the state of California. I am only with them every other week because their parents are separated. I work for their dad.
I have never liked the dad. My natural instincts told me after my interview that he wasnt a great person, but I still took the nanny job. its only after school to 5:30-6:30, so not much time, but I have learned enough to be concerned.
The boys have all told me that the dad hits them. At first I disregard it as exaggeration on their parts considering the fact they thought it was normal. Recently though, they have decided they dont need to listen to me, because they know I would NEVER hit them, and I do my best never to raise my voice. I dont cuss, and I dont lie to them. They have told me that their dad hurts them, not just hits.
I wouldn't have taken this extremely seriously, but the two eldest told me this separately. They were mad at me because they were in a time out, but I dont see why lying would help them. When their father came home that afternoon, I had to explain how disrespectful they had been that day to deserve "time-out"s repeatedly. He got extremely angry, yelled, and told the boys:
"I Love you guys, but I am not going to deal with this F***ing s**t when I come home. If you guys keep all this crap up, I will just let the court send you guy with your mom, with all her restrictions and boyfriends, and i'll go to Italy and bang all the chicks I want. I am not going to put up all this s**t from you p**ks."
I know that this would have been worst if I hadnt been there, he knows I am super conservative. I dont know what I should be. Its a nasty recent divorce, and I am not sure if this is just his way of coping and the kids are really safe and just acting out. I do not want to tear apart a fragile family. I know he loves his kids, but I dont know if he is abusive.
Advice please, and for those to pray, prayer would be wonderful.