should I feel bad for not wanting my son to take his fathers name?

Morgan - posted on 02/12/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )

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im expecting in august, i am not sure what im having yet but i strongly feel that it is a boy, my fiance is the 2nd and he wants our son to be the thrid. I feel bad for disagreeing with him but its my first child to. He owns his own company , and the name of the company is his initials, so i suggested we name our son with his initials just not his name and he doesn't agree.

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Blackwood - posted on 02/12/2011

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Morgan go with a first name for his own, your hubby's name and your dad's name. Naming him after his dad and his grandfathers is great, but will still give him his own name. I would not have named my son his fathers name, only becuz I feel his should have this own, but we put his dad's middle names as my son's middles names which also happens to be a family name. I totally understand giving your child his OWN name, but also keeping it in the family as middle name. Best of luck

Morgan - posted on 02/12/2011

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if it means the world to my fiance then i will settle but i just feel like my son should have his own name. I dont want my son to feel that he has to work for the family company if thats something hes not into. I would really love to have my fathers name part of my sons too. i also feel that its get to confusing with to many people with the same name. also i dont feel its right for me not to love my sons name!

Blackwood - posted on 02/12/2011

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I have to admit, I'm not a huge fan of my son's second and third name, but do too family values and the fact that he will not be called by his second and third name, it wasn't a questions, but his goes for it we have a girl. My middle name is Marigold (no, my parents we not hippies, I was named after my grandmother), my mom and my niece has this middle name as well, so If I have a girl, she too will have this name. But this was my situation and I didn't feel it so important to take the names out of the family just becuz I wasn't a fan. Again this is just how I feel and he has two full names that I wouldn't have personally choosen. I wouldn't have named my son first name after my hubby or anyone else becuz my son deserves to have his own name. Can I ask why this is a deal for you? I don't mean to offened, this was just my situation.

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You shouldn't feel bad for wanting or not wanting a particular name for your child, but this is only one of many, many things you and him will have to either agree on or compromise w/.... Good luck!

Jenni - posted on 02/12/2011

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We didn't really disagree on my son's name but we used my husband's name as his middle name. Benjamin Peter. My husband also has his father's name as his middle name. Peter John.

Firebird - posted on 02/12/2011

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Maybe a compromise? You could give your son his father's first name, and a middle name that you really like, and your son can be called by his middle name. That way he can be 'the 3rd' but still gets his own identity. It's a very common thing to do.

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