Should I get my child looked at for his lack of talking or is waiting til the age of 2 okay?

Jennifer - posted on 12/02/2011 ( 15 moms have responded )

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My son is 20 months old and we THINK he hears perfectly fine. BUt he doesnt talk. Good news is he "baby talks" so at least he blabbers and blabbers. He can say "mama," "dada," "done," "go," and just recently "car." But that is all. Of course at his shots the nurse recommended stopping in at the speech development place (but of course is only on when I can't easily get there. But was always planning on getting him referred to specialist by age 2 appoint if still not talking or way behind like he is. My mother said I didnt talk at this age and basically didnt talk much til I was 4. But of course there are standards nowadays that should say 15 words by 18 months - not even close!! I did need speech therapy myself when was young as couldnt pronounciate well. My daughter (now 3) was an EXCELLENT talker which is a reason I really notice a difference probably. I know boys develop slower. He is also on his 3rd ear infection in 3/4 months so not sure if that is contributing factor. Anyone else have boys slow in this department (he succeeds in every other department like motor, social, etc.) Thanks for any advice:)

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Amy - posted on 12/02/2011

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My oldest son was speaking sentences by the age of two my 20 month old daughter is the complete opposite. Like your son she has a very limited vocabulary (less then 5 words), we had birth the 3 come do an assessment not because we were overly concerned but wanted to do early intervention if they felt it was necessary. They scored her very high in all areas including language because she understands everything we say to her and is able to communicate her needs to us through non verbal cues and sign language.
If you are concerned you can contact them and they come do the assessment for free. I will say this one of the first questions they ask is if there hearing has ever been tested, if your son is frequently getting ear infections I would start with that and then take it from there.

Kathy - posted on 12/07/2011

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Don't go much beyond 2 before seeking help. The fact that he is saying somethings is a good thing. At 2 1/2 my son was not saying anything that was recognizable. If he is babbling I would not worry. Mine was also not babbling. Most counties have early intervention programs and can provide you with assistance for testing if you need it. But they will not provide services if you child is over 2 and 1/2.

Kelina - posted on 12/02/2011

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I might see about getting him referred to an ear nose and throat specialist if he's gotten so many ear infections in such a short period of time, it could indicate a problem. chances are he hears just fine, my son was like that. He hardly talked until 2 1/2 and then he just exploded with words! It's hard to believe he's only been talking a few months when he drives me up the wall now :) My daughter turns 1 today and she's way ahead of where he was at this age in speech!

Krista - posted on 12/02/2011

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One of the big "red flags" for speech therapists is if the child is not stringing two words together by the age of two. Mine wasn't, so I had him evaluated, and they determined that there wasn't a major issue -- he was just a bit delayed. So they gave me some good tricks and exercises to do at home. And just in the last week (he's 27 months old now, and we saw the speech therapist last month), his vocabulary has exploded. It probably would have done so anyway, but I think that the work I did with him probably accelerated things a bit.

I would say that if you're still concerned at age 2, to go get him assessed. It's better to know, and to be able to do something about it, then not to know, and be worrying.

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Jennifer - posted on 12/03/2011

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yeah he definately understands everything I say so doubt issues with hearing. My firends son who is daughters age had speech issues but but thing was that he DIDNT babble I guess. So babbling is good lol:)

Sharon - posted on 12/02/2011

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Our eldest is almost 25mths, and only started saying words regularly around 18-20mths, before that he would only say things when he wanted to. Then a couple of months later he just started repeating EVERYTHING, and now at 25mths he is talking up a storm, links 3 words together with no troubles at all. We never saw a professional for it, just let him develop it at his own pace.

Bonnie - posted on 12/02/2011

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My older son started talking really early, but my younger son was barely saying anything before his second birthday and then he was talking in sentences, not clearly, but you could understand for the most part. Now he is 3 and he talks more than he stays quiet lol.

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If you have concerns about his hearing or understanding... I'd get him checked now. If he can hear you and understand you (ex.. responding to commands) then I would wait til 2.

My son was talking a LOT (sentences at 2 and paragraphs at 2.5), but he still qualified for services at 3 cuz his pronunciation was lacking. He made a LOT of progress in the 6 months he was in speech. It helped that the therapist gave us tips to work w/ him and his pronunciation just exploded.

Rachel - posted on 12/02/2011

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she would go over to them and play with them but she does not talk she would not say sounds or repeat words and never really has. She listens very well and will do any task to the best of her ability including cleaning up after herself and undressing herself she just does not talk she is a very very quiet child and does not even babble much

Jennifer - posted on 12/02/2011

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okay thanks for that Rachel - yeah that is weird how they evaluated her as kids also dont talk as much around strangers (at least mine dont lol). And yeah I guess he prob wouldnt be 25% off quite yet:)

Rachel - posted on 12/02/2011

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Liz I do not know how exactly they do it but I had 3 therapists in my house the other night evaluating my little girl and those were the ages they said. They have to be atleast 25% behind what is considered normal inorder to recieve early intervention.

Jennifer - posted on 12/02/2011

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thanks lady, yes I have a feeling he is gonna start using his blabbers to use to real talk sometime soon. As he knows exactly when to blabber - like after I get him a juice he does a short blabber which I pretend is thank you lol. So yeah will wait til he is 2 since he has recently jus learned "car" maybe he is gonna start his "talking" now. Will definately talk to doc about it at age 2 appoint and see if he should be checked or not:)

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Since there's quite a time range for developing language -- though still considered "normal" -- I don't know how they can pinpoint a child's "level" to such a precise measurement like 14 month level and 30 month level?

Rachel - posted on 12/02/2011

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My daughter is 21 and we just saw a speech therapist for an evaluation since she is only saying 7 words. They did the evaluation and she is only speaking at a 14 month level she is advanced in everything else she ranks around a 30 month level for everything other than talking. I would suggest having him checked.

Karen - posted on 12/02/2011

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my son was the exact same way! i chose to opt out of getting him checked out at 2 because i knew he was doing fine and set the age of 3 for getting checked if it was still needed by that time. he's 26 months now and it's almost like a light switch came on around his 2nd birthday - the child is a parrott now! he's gone from only having a 5-10 word vocab to repeating everything we say and being able to now string 4 words together.

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