Tara - posted on 06/23/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )
I left my childs dad when Candice was 6 months. our relationship of 3 year felt like it wwas coming to an end. we always argued about stupid shit and were not happy, he would play poker online or video games. never gave me anytime. but was happy with his daughter. I tried talking it out with him but he never seemed to care. it got to a point were we started to disrespect each other. emotionally and verbally abuse each other. so I left and moved on my own.
but 6 months after we broke up I got into another relationship with a old friend that I always liked since highschool. things moved quickly and soon he was living with me. I ignored all his fault cause I drank a lot with him. but soon I was getting my self in trouble so I sobered up. Bruce was a major alcoholic. for a while lost my trust in him. but we decided to work on it and he went and got help. and doesnt feel the need to drink everyday and is happy with me and my child. he still messes up and I find alcohol hidden in our place. but ive come to a conclusion that its a alcohol disease and he always going to be struggling with it.
I cant help feeling that I shuld give Candice dad a second chance. and let bruce fix his self on his own term instead of stressing me out with his situation. but I don't feel I love Candice dad how I use to. if anything I hate lots about him. he is a very immature 30 year old. and am scared that am going back into a relationship where it leaves me feeling lonely and arguing all the time. and also I don't feel attracted to him anymore... I mainly want to try again with him. because he is so lonely and depressed not being able to see Candice 24=7. but we both agreed if we got back together we would have to be in love again.
Am so confused I need some advice. I cant let down my walls with my current relationship because of Candice dad always interfering. I want to move on but am so confused what the right decision is for me.