Shenelle - posted on 05/13/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )
i've recently found out i was pregnant. my boyfriend and i have been together for 8 mths officially but we've been intimately involved for almost 3 yrs. i've always believed that i'm not the most fertile person, because i'm 21 and finally got pregnant again, crazy, i know (first one, not for him, i miscarried) although i'm overwhelmed with joy, he's not in any way on board. when i told him the news, which came as a shock to us both, he said that he wasn't ready (his way of saying, get rid of it) i thought about it long and hard because i needed him to feel like his feelings also mattered. but why should i undergo such an invasive procedure, or take toxic pills to get rid of this precious gift, a gift that God has given to us, a gift that WE BOTH made?? am i being selfish ? i mean, i just can't comprehend that level of stupidity, you say you're not ready, yet, you refuse to use any kinds of contraceptives, (even the "withdrawal" method) and when i decide to keep it, he makes it seems as though i got pregnant on purpose. to add insult to injury, i live directly next door to him, and his mom/sister isn't a huge fan of me (they hate my guts for what f**king reason, idk) my question is: do you think i'm making a huge mistake, being selfish, setting myself up for the kill?? gosh, i really want this baby, but i don't know if the benefits outweigh everything else...