Should i have another baby!! Please let me know what u think

Suzanne - posted on 04/01/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )




Hi. Im a 21 year old mom to a beautiful 17 month old daugther. I wanted 2 children before but now i only think of one. Its because me and my fiance are building a house this summer, we are gonna have another room but we want to have it as a play room for are daughter. we only want one so we can buy her whatever she wants and its cheaper with one child. BUT i will feel bad that she want have a sibling. Should i still have another baby just because of that??? I really need help


Shannintipton - posted on 04/01/2011




Hi Suzanne,
Only you and your partner can answer that question. Dont you think?{:+)
shannin tipton


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Tyrae - posted on 04/01/2011




I would wait. Even if there is a large age gap between your children at least your oldest will be able to watch your youngest while you are doing stuff around the house. If you did decide to have another now, they could always share a room, and have the other room as a playroom, and than when they are older and no longer need a playroom they could have seperate bedrooms. I loved sharing a room with my sisters when I was younger. Even if they are different genders they can still share the same room until they are like 6-7.

I wouldn't have another just because I want my daughter to have a sibling. While I was pregnant I only wanted one kid but now that I've had my daughter I definitely want another one.

Its a decision only you and your partner can fully make. Take some time to think about it. Write down a list of co's and pron's so you can see it all in one go and be able to make a good decision. This would be a major choice and it shouldn't be done overnight. Good luck.

Belinda - posted on 04/01/2011




It sounds like you aren't ready for baby number 2 at the moment so don't worry about it now. You may feel that you want another sometime in the future. Your daughter really won't know what she is missing if she doesn't have a sibling. I don't think that you have anything to feel guilty about. When and if you change your mind you will be ready, until then, just let it go.

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Wait. You are still young. Your daughter is still young. And w/ building a house you will have enough on your mind for quite a while.

I didn't even have my first (well, first two as they were twins) til 25, so you have plenty of time to figure this out and make the decision that is right for your entire family.

Suzanne - posted on 04/01/2011




i know there is no right or wrong and we should decide but i still dont know what to do. but probably only time will tell

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There's no right or wrong answer when deciding how many children to have. It's a personal decision. But if the ONLY reason you are having another is so your daughter will have a sibling, then I think you shouldn't do it. Have another because YOU (and your fiance) want another.

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