Arin - posted on 07/10/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )
My daughter will be 1 year old soon and I'm a on the fence about whether or not I should invite her father. It is probably just going to be a small family dinner most likely consisting of only my family. He has not visited our daughter in over 7 months and I haven't had any contact from him in about 3 months. I have repeatedly sent emails and messages asking him if he would like to set up some kind of visitation without any response and he has not given me one cent to help support her. Oh and did I mention that my entire family despises him? Aside from making my family uncomfortable, I really don't want to see him either. I'm afraid that my anger towards him will spew forth from me like a volcano and I will be powerless to control hateful words that I would inevitably regret saying. I guess I'm just looking for some perspective... I know that even if I invite him that he will most likely not show up given his track record. But then I think of my little girl and all that she is going to miss out on by not having a father that is active in her life, and I think that if I can do anything to perhaps change that then I should at least give it a shot. But then again, she doesn't even reminder him at this point and doesn't know that she is missing out on anything and I'm not sure that she actually is. Her grandpa (my father) is very active in her life as well as my two brothers so she does have three great male role models. Her father on the other hand is undependable and I fear that bringing him into her life will only cause her heartache. He has a son from a previous marriage that he has only seen once in 3 years and rarely even calls. I'm just really confused as to what would be the best thing to do for my daughter. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance.