Christa - posted on 05/28/2011 ( 15 moms have responded )
Help! My ex and I have been separated for almost 4 years. The agreement we have is that they visit him every second weekend, but I am the primary caregiver. Dad has been seeing someone for about 6 or 7 months now and has recently moved two hours away to live with her and her daughter (from a previous marriage). Our son is 10 and our daughter is 4, the girlfriend's daughter is 9 and an only child. The problem is that my kids' dad has become super-dad to the gf's girl, to the detriment of his own kids. Every time he kids come home there is the same story "we didn't do anything, dad pays all his attention to them and not us". At first I took it with a grain of salt, changes are always hard for kids I know. But my kids have their very first dance recital tomorrow and their dad is not coming. He has known for at least two months about this and the reason he gave our son is that he has stuff to do with his girlfriend. My son is crushed. His dad has never once picked up the kids from school, yet he picks up the gf's daughter all the time. The kids were made to go to a first communion and party for the girl, but none of them are coming to the recital. I am so tired of my son and daughter being sad and hurt by him. As a dad he is inattentive at best and has been for...well forever really. The kids have said they don't really want to go to daddy's because he's mean and pays more attention to the new girl than them, but they end up going because they think he will get mad and they don't want to upset them. What do I do?????