should i keep this pregnancy a secret?

Ashley - posted on 07/09/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Hello fam.. ok here is my situation, i had been pregnant since last year and i gave birth to a stillborn baby boy on the 13th of February 2015...it was my first baby and my fiance and i were so ecstatic about this as we had long planned to become parents. the doctor that confirmed him dead had no answers together with the midwives that helped me deliver.so there was no answer until the last day when i was discharged from the hospital,that is when they concluded that the cause of the death might have been asphyxia though it was not because of the umbilical cord, they just concluded that the baby might have been stressed because when he came out he popped. i was so shattered as i never heard him cry or see him move

as of now, it has been 4 months since we lost him and on the 21 of June we had unprotected sex with my partner and we both decided that i take the morning after pill just in case i had fallen pregnant. i took the morning after pill on the 22nd of June in the evening at around 6pm. 10 days later i took a home pregnancy test just to make sure i was not pregnant and it turned out negative so i was relieved. i was expecting my menstrual period on the 4th of July but it did not come. so on the 7th i bought 2 home pregnancy testers n to my surprise they tested positive, the 2nd band rose was not faint but very concentrated.

so i guess the emergency pill did not work..we are so ecstatic to be having another baby but i am scared the same thing that happened with my first might happen.i also wonder if i we were too quick to become pregnant or not though physically and mentally we had healed. am just so happy and i pray to God to protect this one. we have also decided to keep this pregnancy a secret until the baby is born because we dont know how our parents, inlaws, friends and relatives are going to take this.we are just scared but so happy at the same tym!

plis advice.

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MaryAnn - posted on 07/09/2015

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You talk about your pregnancy when you are ready... and not a moment sooner. If you feel it could be of some help, there are support groups and counselors for these kinds of things.
you take care of yourself mama.

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Ashley - posted on 07/10/2015

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thanks Mary..yes am willing to open up when am ready but not anytime soon. thanks once again.

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