Should I Keep trying to get pregnant

Elizabeth - posted on 03/10/2010 ( 12 moms have responded )

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I have 2 children from a previous relationship me and my current husband have been . trying for well over a year for a baby, i even saw a specialist when i had insurance, i even had laproscopy and hystroscopy to take out a bunch of tissue, and untilt my utuerus. I also was put on some very expensive fertility injections and had a interuteral insenimation and still nothing happened. I have been checked and the doctors say i am ovulating correctly, and my husband is at a good enough percentage, but the doctors say i will have no problem getting pregnant. Still waiting, but i think a lot of is that i am so stressed because i am so focused on getting pregnant and every time i think my period is a day late i buy a pg test just to get a negative. I have been reading taking care of your fertility and seen that periods can be any where from 25-38 days which i did not know. I just bought a clear blue easy fertility prediction kit and am hoping by changing my train of thought and focusing on other things that it will lessen my stress, I have also recently started dieting. Though my mind is saying i just don't think its ment for us to have kids, my heart says just relax and let nature take its course. Its difficult after trying for well over 2 years.

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Beckymunyiva - posted on 05/22/2012

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Courtney - posted on 03/21/2010

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My hubby and I were ttc in Oct 08...I was SO focused on getting pregnant, that we WEREN'T getting pregnant! I was so pissed/stressed/sad/mad/every other feeling in the book! Then, in Feb 09, my hubby told me to just relax and when it happenes it happens...we got pregnant end Feb/beg March!!! Stress will screw up your ovulation cycle, so when you think you should be ovulation you won't be!! So, in the words on my wise hubby, relax and when it happens it will happen! :)

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So what I have to say is going to sound crazy. Stop trying ,relax and smell your Husband 's arm pit. it really works it will help you relax, and your body will produce hormones that it needs to get pregnant.

Vanessa - posted on 03/20/2010

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My cousin & her hubby tried for years & finally decided to adopt. A few weeks before they were to get their baby, my cousin found out she was pg. If I stress about anything it throws my period off, which logically would throw offf everything else. Stop keeping track of everything, including when your period should start, for a couple of months. Maybe it's like they say, it'll happen when it happens.

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I found it very hard when my husband and I were trying for a baby because I had no one to talk to who was in the same situation or could understand properly. It is hard to keep positive but with your husband's support you will get through this together =] and be stronger for it too! *big hugs* (I'm in a very huggy mood lol)

Elizabeth - posted on 03/20/2010

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thank you everyone for your information, believe it or not it helps to talk with others, and especially ones that have the same issues or have had the same issues, i have been trying not to focus so much on why i cant seem to get pregnant, and just let things happen if and when they do, i feel a lot less anxiety and stress and believe it or not it has improved my life in many ways, i think that rite now its best to stay positive through such a difficult time.

Lee - posted on 03/20/2010

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sometimes when u focus on somethin that u want so badly u forget to make it fun an less of a chore this may sound strange but a friend had a similar experience where she was so focused on gettin pregnant she forgot to have fun im a mum of 4 an i get pregnant at the drop of a hat my last two were pill an no i didnt miss one pill was too low a dosage an the other was the injection my one suggestion is while ur tryin for a baby make it fun make the act of conception more ur focus like just enjoyin urselves an less worry bout diets etc it will happen when it happens an ur right my period is only 25 days for 3 days we all vary as to who we are good luck sweetheart xx

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Hi Elizabeth. With our first, we tried for 2 & 1/2 years before finally discovering that I had the same issues you had. I had them corrected, had 1 IUI and bingo!!; pregnant. We knew we could do it so we thought we would be sensible and wait a while before trying again, even though I am 37 now so it is statistically getting harder.



Well have just had our 5th IUI for this baby fail and I am of course kicking myself that we didn't start sooner. We have had every piece of advice under the sun and you know what...none of it matters. You just have to do what is right for you. Stop playing the "What If" game, give yourself a moment of peace and and listen to your heart. You know deep down what is right for you. There are factors you can't control but you will know when you are on the right path. If you want to it all let go and just let the universe take care of it...do that. If you want to chart your cycle, take predictor tests etc...do that. And if your heart tells you it is enough and it is time to stop...then do that.



This is YOUR journey, no-one elses. Be kind to yourself.

Judy - posted on 03/19/2010

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When you quit trying to get pregnant that is when it will happen! Iwas told by several doctors that I was unable to have children! So i gave up on the idea,and now 5 children later makes me a very busy mom,and I love it

Kate CP - posted on 03/19/2010

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Also, if you're not at the right weight for your frame you won't be able to get pregnant. So gain or lose weight as needed and then try for a baby. If your body isn't healthy enough for you it won't be healthy enough for a baby. And I know the feeling: been trying for almost a year. :/

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You're right the best thing to do is try to relax. Try to forget that you are "trying" for a baby and if it's going to happen it will happen. It took me 18 months to concieve - you probably read my comment on the thread about the woman who's been trying for 8 months. It's hard, I blamed myself because I have PCOS so it was a problem with my body rather than my husbands. By the time I did concieve I had stopped stressing so much! Whilst it's harder to concieve when you're overweight it's not really advisable to diet whilst trying for a baby.

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