Should I kick my 19 yrs old son out

Sharon - posted on 06/16/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )




Sleep late everyday around 3am; get up late around 2pm; eat whatever cooked; play game or see gf or game friends - take course at local university - but not doing good and do not care.

No willing to share life. No matter ask him what, the answer would be " you do not need to worry". Let me live my life.

Today after a conversation, he concluded you are being negative to my life not helping.

He has no plan for future, no goal for life. No willing to change. I have tried very hard to see positive side. But no any good sign that he will be changing?


Cathy - posted on 06/19/2014




Sit him down and talk to him let him ,Let him know what he should be doing!My son liked to play games to but if it haven't been for my boyfriend to say something he would still be playing.He probably is not doing good in school because you are paying for it and it's not his money he is spending.If it were his he would be doing good.Kids don't take care of what you buy them until they have to pay for it.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/16/2014




You probably should have outlined your expectations of an adult living in his parents home sooner.

As it stands, you need to do so now. He should be paying you rent at the very least, for his room. He should be contributing to food expenses if he expects to eat at home, and he should be respecting the house rules as stated for every resident of the home.

If he doesn't want to abide by those terms, he is more than welcome to pack his crap and get out. My 20 year old had no problem with meeting terms to live in our home before he found a flat of his own. As a matter of fact, he set the terms, and because they were actually reasonable (even more than I'd had in mind for him), we went with it. We signed a contract with each other, and all adhered.

Jodi - posted on 06/16/2014




Or you could just stop feeding him and provide him with an appropriate schedule. It sounds like he is taking too much advantage of you.

How about you sit down and outline the conditions that he stays in the house. If he breaks them, you can evict him. He's an adult. He can deal with it on his own if he can't get his act together.


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Guest - posted on 06/16/2014




I plan to allow my son to live at home after he is 18 only if he is enrolled full time in University courses and maintaining a 3.0 GPA or better. (Full time meaning working on a degree curriculum and enrolled in at least 9 to 12 credit hours per semester).

If my son were behaving as your son is, I would sit him down and give him an ultimatum: Get your grades up or you will have to find a place of your own and pay for it yourself.

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