Sedona - posted on 01/21/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )
I am 8 months pregnant and 17 years old. I am currently living with my boyfriend/father of my son and he is causing me a lot of stress and my depression is coming back full swing (i have a history of depression and have been diagnosed with depression and anxiety). We have been together for almost years now but I am not sure I can honestly handle the constant disrespect he shows me. Sometimes I feel like it is all in my head and I'm making it up but I know I am not because I know what he does to me is wrong. I just am scared to leave not because of where I would go, my family is very supportive and would take me and my son in, but about my son not being able to be around his dad. I of course would not keep my son away from his dad or his fathers family but also I do really love my boyfriend and I'm scared that if I leave I would get depressed and be heart broken. But I also know that I want my son to be raised with certain values and I don't want him to grow up thinking it is ok to treat anyone like how his father is treating me (i grew up in a broken family with parents who have never gotten along and were constantly fighting and hurting each other). I don't by any means want my son to grow up like that. So my question is not really if I should leave him because I feel like I will eventually have to as much as it hurts, unless he changes. My question is actually should I leave him before my son is born or after. The reason I ask this is because I really want him to be there when I have our son and be there to witness everything but I'm not so sure it would be comfortable if I move out and leave him and then go into labor and he's there. I want him to be apart of my sons life and I have no intention of taking my son away from him. Or should I wait and give him a second chance and if he doesn't change after my son is born then to leave him. I just really don't want my baby to have to deal with any stress and I already feel horrible because he already is dealing with stress because he feels my stress. I just don't want him to be unhappy. I want my baby to be happy and stress free. I just don't know what to do. My mom and grandma say I just really have to think about it and make up my mind and also quit thinking that I'm making this all up (because I do feel like sometimes I'm just making this all up). I really just want the best for my son and if that means not being able to be with his father then I will do it because as much as I love him I can not and will not cause any stress or harm to my baby because I love my son more than I love my boyfriend. Please help I just need some outside advice.