Jennifer - posted on 03/23/2016 ( 7 moms have responded )
My boyfriend and I have been together for 9-10 years. I say boyfriend because we are not married but have been living together and we have 3 kids together. He never asked me to marry him. I have a full time job and have been paying all the bills by myself. He never helped me pay the bills at all for the last 9 years. He works too but I get paid more than he does. He just recently started paying the mortgage about 2 months ago because I threatened to leave him. The mortgage is 1400 dollars and all our other expenses are about 3000 (Which I pay 3,000). We don't have any joint accounts, nothing jointly. The cars are in my name, all the bills are in my name. I recently read our home deed and figured out that the house is not on my name. The house is on a trust for the kids, which I was aware of , but he forced me to sign over my ownership rights 4 weeks after I had my baby and was very tired. I am NOT the owner of the house. He has full ownership of the trust and only HE Can make changes to the trust. This was a BIG RED FLAG for me. I tried to tell him to please put my name on the trust but he doesn't budge. I support him in anything that he wants to do however he doesn't support me on anything. I told him I wanted to go back to school and he says "Then I have to take care of everything, all the kids and everything?" He wanted me to feel guilty. There is no support from him at all on any of my career moves, promotions or goals. If there is any problem at all, he flips out. The washing machine broke and I told him we should look at upgrading the laundry room and he started yelling at me saying that "All I want is money, money and money" But the ironic thing is that I don't ask him for money at all. I pay everything else. All he does is pay the 1400 mortgage and I pay 3 Car loans, Insurances, Kids activities, after school, light, phone, cable, home insurance, gas, oil, food, entertainment. My expenses are 3000. I decided Im leaving him because I cannot continue to be with someone who doesn't support me emotionally or who doesn't understand that we should have joint accounts, joint home ownerships etc. Has anyone ever been in this situation before? Please help me and any advice you can give me would be so greatly appreciated. Thanks!