Should I leave my church and my husband?

Adrian - posted on 03/01/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )




April 2014 I married my son's dad. I don't know if it was an act of desperation because I was single for 7 years prior to this. He has never been faithful to me and recently gave his life to Christ last year. We have been seeking counseling from our pastor who has now announced that he and his wife are getting a divorce. Last night my husband sought counseling with the pastor about a recent affair that he has been having. During counseling the pastor disclosed that he and his wife have been seeing other people while they were married. I honestly don't think the pastor should be trying to help my husband due to his own failed marriage. I knew that my marriage was going to be hard going into it but I believed that God could make this work. I'm now 8 months pregnant with our 2nd child and I feel stuck with someone who doesn't love me or himself. I just don't know what to do at this point.


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Ev - posted on 03/01/2015




I agree with Michelle. This man does not seem to care what you feel or about what marriage really means. I am so surprised that a pastor is even counseling others in the path of marriage when his own is on the rocks. I would change churches or find someone who could suggest one with a pastor has himself in order.

Michelle - posted on 03/01/2015




I think you need to get the church out of your decision process and decide if you can stay with a man that doesn't love you.
No, he doesn't love you if he is having affairs all the time. It isn't a once off, he has been doing it since you met.
I personally would run away and get to court for visitation and child support ASAP. You deserve better, someone who love YOU!!!!!!

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