Callie - posted on 11/03/2012 ( 12 moms have responded )
I got married about 4 months ago to a great man that I had been with for over 3 years. My kids (7, 8, and 9) started calling him Dad and when asked why they said "because he loves us just as much as our real Dad". He has always been great to my kids and me. Well, a few days ago I got a phone call from him at work yelling at me to come home now. I had never heard him talk the way he was, all I could hear was pure rage in his voice! I got home to find that he had been slapping my 7 year old around!!!! I proceeded to have him arrested, a decision that I do not regret one bit!! In the days to follow I have talked with most of his family and friends and no one can believe that he did this. No one has ever seen or even heard of him becoming violent with anyone or anything unless he was being attacked. I know he is completely ashamed of what he did, he was in tears over it when I got home and I know there is no excuse for what he has done and that yes he needs to pay the price for it. I just think that for this to have happened he had to have some kind of psychotic break and needs mental help. I am wondering if there is any chance, given the help that I think he is in need of, that I could get back the man that I fell in love with. I believe people can change even in abuse instances. My father was abusive to my mother when they first got married and he got counseling and it never happened again. I know the situation is not quite the same seeing my husband struck a child. I just want some outside input please.