Should I let my daughter go and visit her father ....

Belen - posted on 12/18/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I don't know if Im supposed to ask this type of question here but here it goes...I broke up with my ex and we have a daughter together. He moved to another state and got back with his ex-wife and now he lives with her and his son. To give you a little backround of what happened I met him after his divorce was final. She wasnt totally over him I guess and when she found out I was pregnant she made my life a living hell. She would text and email me saying that he had cheated on me with her. To make a very long story short he lives with her and it hurts me. Deep down inside I know I shouldnt want nothing to do with him but I think I want to go back with him because I want her to hurt like I hurt. Now he blames me for the fact that we are not together. He wants to be a big happy family with her and to send my daughter to them for a week. I dont want to mix my daughter up in all this mess but I must admit my judgeent is clouded and Ive asked my freinds in family but I really think I should ask some on neutral because I want to do what is best for my daughter. I think spending time with him is the right thing for my daughter but I still resent the fact hes with this woman who messed up our relationship and that bad mouthed my daugher(when I was pregnan with the baby she said my daughter would be a prostitute

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Lacye - posted on 12/18/2012

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Honestly, the best thing to do is allow him to see her. What he has done to you is pretty shitty, but your daughter has a right to know her father, no matter what he has done to you. I do have to say this though, you need to contact a lawyer and have visitation done through court as soon as possible. If you send your daughter over to his house, depending on where you live, he will not be required to give the child back unless there is a court order written out. Find out what your state laws are and the laws in whatever state he is living in.

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Belen - posted on 12/18/2012

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Thanks for he advice!! I am glad you are telling me about visitation laws because I have heard laws vary state to state. Im really scared to have my daughter spend any time away from me lol. What concerns me is that his significant other has bad mouthed my daughter and my daughter is 1 so god forbid she mistreats her she wont be able to tell me. Kind of stings that he would over look something like that and it makes me wonder whether he's thinking straight. He claims she has apologized millions of times but it still concerns me.

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