Anonymous - posted on 01/21/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )
My daughter is 3 and I have been having trouble with her dad for some time. He sometimes parties, does drugs, and has been abusive towards me. He is a different person when he drinks. However, he is never under the influence or has that behavior in front of my daughter. Actually, he is very good with her but when it comes to financial situations he has never helped. He barely holds a job and even when he does I barely get money. He left me for another girl and pretty much did not come around so often anymore. It was constant fights and with him partying all the time I did not trust him to take his child. That ended and we tried to work it out and he was seeing my daughter a lot. Then he went drinking and started problems again so I said I wanted to end. For almost 2 weeks, he has barely called. He finally asks if he can take her for a night and with no problem I said yes. From what I know he said he was going to spend his bday with his child. Now I find out that he is taking her out with the girl he left me for and is talking all kinds of stuff behind my back that I do not give him the rights he should have, So in response I said that I want him out of both of our lives. Am I doing the right thing or am I being bitter? I encourage him to be in her life but I feel he only does so when its convenient for him. Can he take me to court? What should I do?