Should I let my ex take my 10 year old on vacation with his new gf and her kids?

Leela - posted on 11/23/2013 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Long story short my ex started a relationship with his gf 4 months ago. She has 3 kids including a baby and left her husband to be with my ex. She's going through a divorce and my ex has said that she's having a hard time with that. i asked him to meet/ talk to her and he said she's going through a lot and gave me a cell no thats never worked. My ex wants my son to go on a beach vacation with her and her family (her parents etc), none of whom I know. I've said I'm not comfortable since I don't know her and frankly my ex can be quite flaky. My son seems fine with her but he's never been away on these types of trips. Plus, they'll all be sharing a room (my ex, gf, son and her kids. her daughter is 9 and i think thats crazy, but thats just me.)Of course this is causing tension. Any thoughts?

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Jessica - posted on 11/23/2013

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I would say its ok if u meet this girl. Make sure your son is safe. Atleast show him your trying to be comfortable with him leaving so he wont get anger towards you if you dont let him go.. has dad ever showed anger towards him or treatened tl take him from you.?

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Leela - posted on 12/07/2013

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My son didn't care one way or another. I was so worried about that! Christmas is coming up and I'm praying it will be drama free. Thanks for checking up!

Leela - posted on 12/05/2013

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Yes, he didn't go. My ex didn't want to introduce me to his gf since she's having a very bad time with her divorce. My ex wasn't happy about my decision but I decided it wasn't about him. I need to know my son is safe.

Leela - posted on 11/23/2013

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Thanks Jessica. His dad has shown anger but has never outright said he would pursue custody. Then again you never know. I will only be comfortable if I meet the new gf and I've said that. My other concern is that they've only been together 4 months and they're already doing the 'family' thing. I asked him to make sure that this relationship is something that he wants before creating these bonds between the kids. He said he's very scared and doesn't know if he can handle the responsibility of 3 more kids. Sigh. This is something she wants so he doesn't want to say no. Double sigh.

Jessica - posted on 11/23/2013

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I would say its ok if u meet this girl. Make sure your son is safe. Atleast show him your trying to be comfortable with him leaving so he wont get anger towards you if you dont let him go.. has dad ever showed anger towards him or treatened tl take him from you.?

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