Should I let my husband pick a baby's name?

Annemarie - posted on 10/13/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )




My husband and I just had our 1st anniversary and have started talking babies. I have an almost 8 year old girl from a previous relatonship but she considers my husband her dad. He has been in her life since she was 3 1/2. He is an awesome dad. I am not pregnant at the moment but would love to be but I am a little hesitant. If we have a boy, my husband wants to name him after him. This would be the 4th. The problem is that I really don't like his name! I mean the baby would have his last name, boy or girl. I would even let him pick the middle name and we could compromise on the first name. His name is rather old fashioned sounding to me and am thinking ahead to when he would be in school and could end up getting teased for it. Myh husband got teased in school for it and its nothing new that bullying is reaching an all time high in schools.
I feel like this could be for nothing since I could easily have a girl or, have trouble conceiving a second at all. It just has been on my mind a lot and it makes me hesitant to really start trying. Any ideas??


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Tinker1987 - posted on 10/13/2011




i think if your naming after family,then its best to use in the middle name, first names are very important you want something you will be happy with and what you hope your child will be happy with the rest of his or her life. i say compromise on the first,tell him how you feel,its got to be something you both love.

Christy - posted on 10/13/2011




It's something you BOTH need to agree on. Period. My husband wanted to name out first born after his Dad and I said NO. Not that he is a bad person, but didn't want him to have a first name connected to his family. Sounds contradictory I know, but still.

Brianna - posted on 10/13/2011




tell ur hubby how u feel. tell him that u can but his name as babys middle name as a compermise

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Don't let a name get in the way of having a baby. No doubt you will come up with a perfect when your child arrives. My husband were together for 7 years before we had kids and we talked about different names for a long time. Thankfully he gave up on Chauncy! LOL

Annemarie - posted on 10/13/2011




Thanks. I am hoping that we can work this out. I know he will make a really good dad and I would hate for something like not agreeing on a name be the reason we put this off. I feel like its a little early to be thinking of names at this point but it has been bugging me. I might just let it go and whatever happens happens.

Bonnie - posted on 10/13/2011




Annemarie, that is what me and my husband did. I chose first names that I liked and then we narrowed it down and decided together and then I let him choose the middle name.

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Be honest and tell him why you don't want to name your son after him. Hopefully he will understand especially if your husband was teased in school because of it. If he still wants the baby to have his name maybe you can compromise with a first name you both like and use your husbands name as middle name instead.

Emilie - posted on 10/13/2011




I have 2 kids by my ex husband. He didn't pick any names, I picked the names and he told me if he liked them or not. I think the names should be a dicision the parents make together.

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