Karie - posted on 08/24/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )
My husband was raised by his grandmother (Ollie) with a large portion of his Aunt and her husband so when I say In-laws I'm not referring to the typical other parents. His mom left when he was 3-4 and his grandmother took over, and his dad was in and out of the picture. We got pregnant while we were dating (21 and 24) and not many were too happy about the idea but at least accepted it an moved on. Ollie on the other hand didn't tell any of her family until I was very near due. After having our daughter it's all about how she's "just like (insert someone in their family)" I felt like I had no acknowledgment of even just given birth or that she was also a part of me or my family. About a year later it was Christmas time and we were at Ollie's house for a dinner. She handed our daughter a glass snow globe to play with and immediately it was thrown to the ground and broke all over. Luckily no one was hurt. Eventually we had a second child, another daughter and while we were all there for a visit Ollie gives our oldest a glass paperweight. By the time I realized what she'd given her it was being kicked across the floor into an old fireplace. Again, more glass to play with. After this I'm done letting my kids go there and certainly don't want them to be babysat by her. Then we get a talk, well my husband gets a talk, from his Aunt and Uncle that Ollie and they aren't allowed time with our daughters with out supervision. My first thought was "are we co-parenting with you?" Ollie doesn't have a car so she goes everywhere Aunt and Uncle go. Therefore never any time with only them or ability to accomplish a relationship with only them. Today is the first time our daughters are being watched alone by Ollie and Aunt. There was no real reason for this to happen today, my husband is off doing things with his Uncle and I had no plans. They make you feel like you don't get a say in what happens then once it's done you realize. Should I have let this happen?