Maryk - posted on 01/27/2016 ( 12 moms have responded )
I am engaged to be married to this wonderful guy with 4 kids from 3 different mothers. I have 1 child from my previous relationship and I am currently pregnant with our own child. We were planning to get married this year but he doesn't want us to discuss the plans because I don't talk about his kids when we discussing our future plan neither does he include mu child in any of the discussions. He wants me to take my son back to my mum or my baby daddy when we get married but he expects me to stay with his kids once we are married. I find it very unfair and difficult to understand that. That is why I even suggested to him that his kids must continue staying in a boarding school they will visit us during holidays or month ends. He will not be even staying with me because he works very far but still insist that I must take his kids. Im not an angel and I have feelings too. at least if he was willing to meet me halfway that I also take my son and his kids plus the one we are expecting, I would have settled but mine will be left out. I know this will make my marriage fail, his kids have their mothers who are not even responsible and now that burden has to be mine yet im told that since my son has a supportive father he must go and stay with him or at my moms place. Sometimes I am made to believe that the man I had wish to spend all my life with is selfish and he doesn't want my child and how can he expect me to love and care for his kids im no angel. I feel he must take care of his kids on the side and they will either stay in a boarding school or with his mom as well and I will also send my son to stay with my mom and will take care of him there than our joint responsibility will be this new baby that is ours than I can be at peace. I am really confused he wants me to just forget that I have a child and I must just take his. I will not be able to treat them as mine and truth be told they belong with their moms as well not that I hate them but I hate the responsibility that comes with this. im currently assisting there and there with his kids but he never appreciates. there is never a time where he will ask if my son has anything he would want to be assisted ob but he expects me to be this supermom who always needs to know whats happening in his kids life. Its killing me and its destroying me. I have lost the faith in what we share because of this and he doesn't understand he is selfish. I wish I can get someone to talk some sense to me maybe im unreasonable.