Should I meet my child's father's girlfriend?

Sarah - posted on 04/29/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




My son is two and half and only met his father in the past few months when we moved back to the area. His dad visited when we first moved back with but has not spent a lot of time with him since he got a new job and new girlfriend. I have full legal and physical custody because his dad showed no interest when we lived out of state. One of my requirements of letting him see his son is that I know everyone who is around him. Well, once he told me he was seeing someone and they wanted to take for a few hours I told him I needed to meet the new person. Now he says that I am being unreasonable in needing to know everyone who is around him.

My question is whether or not it is unreasonable to need to meet the new girlfriend?


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Catalina - posted on 04/29/2012




Nope, you need to meet here, and know where exactly they will be going, and when exactly they will be back!

It's your right and job as his mother to keep him safe and if that means being a crazy baby mama, well we have to do what we have to do!

Good Luck!

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Not unreasonable in the least and you just simply need to let him know there are no negative feelings over the girlfriend but an issue of safety for your child. Here's. An example of such a minor issue : let's say your son gets a boo boo while the dad is in the shower or in the bathroom. The gf might be the one to "make it better " simply as the available adult. Now others can cite more extreme examples but you are not being unreasonable in the least.

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