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My husband and I are getting a divorce. At the moment that is ok, we are getting along even better then before (I suppose cause we can see the end in sight!).
My question is, I have the option of taking over the mortgage on our townhouse, were we live, where the kids have always lived.
It's close to 4 different primary schools, and with in good distance of the classes the kids do, as well as their pre-school. My son and daughters best friend are all here, and we see them several times a week.
My family live 50km (30ish miles?) away. Which is not that far, but everything for the kids will have to change if we move there. My parents have offered to buy a house which I will rent from them at about market value (a little cheaper but not much).
This is the area I grew up in. I know people, and I could probably get work alot easier. The schools are better, and the overall standard of living would be much better. My Ex will be living there too, as he is moving home for the time being.
I am having a lot of pressure put on me to move there. I will not have enough money to visit here often and that means everything for the kids will change.
I am worried it will make everything harder for them if we move.
My kids are 4 and 1, I know they will eventually adapt.
Also from a financial perspective, if I don't take over the mortgage here and rent I will have no property in the future, I live in Sydney Aust. I worry if I get out of the market I will never get back in.
I may have the option of doing it all, and renting the town house, but I don't know how I would manage if the place way empty for a while.
I am also a little annoyed with my Mum who told me she could buy a house near me here if I wanted, so I had a bigger place for the kids, but none of their classes or anything would change. But now she says no, if I want them to help me I have to move near them.
My friends here are trying to be supportive, but they all want me to stay, and my family all want me to move. I don't know what to do, and I am to confused to work out what is best for the kids, and what I would like to do.
Any advice, or experience would be very helpful. Thanks