Should I pay my mom to watch my children?

Kimberly - posted on 03/07/2014 ( 7 moms have responded )

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She collects them from school and does some homework with them and feeds them BUT she lives with me and I pay for everything including her cell phone. Any extra thing she does with them I also pay for. If you think she should be compensated then what seems a fair amount? She watches them about 3 hours a day during the week only. Thanks!

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Jodi - posted on 03/07/2014

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Actually, I think that if you PAY her, you should also be expecting her to pay her own way in your house. If she is getting free board at your expense, then no, she shouldn't be being paid - 3 hours a day during the week is generally only worth about $100 - that would be a fair amount for her board.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/07/2014

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I would talk with her about it. Maybe she does not expect to be paid. And if she does, then negotiate a fair amount with her. 3 hours per day, is 15 hours per week. If she is only doing the weekdays.

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Abbey - posted on 03/09/2014

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This is a tough one because it IS your mother. I don't think there is anything wrong with paying the grandparents money to watch the grandkids. My mother watched my daughter for free most of the time, but there were "extra" times on short notice, long hours, etc that I totally thought it fair to compensate her. That being said, it sounds like your mother is living as your dependent right now. It sounds like both of you could use the cash. It's weird that she expects to live off you for free but you can't rely on her for free. If you do pay her, my suggestion would be that she use that baby-sitting money for anything extra she wants to buy so that you are not accountable for those things anymore. I would definitely suggest agreeing to terms with her before you begin paying so that there are no questions later. Good luck!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/08/2014

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Yes 20 per day does add up, but that way you can stop paying for everything else, and she can pay it herself. Do not create a rift over this between you and your mom, cause chances are you need her help. But try to make it into a fair situation for both of you. Not that I think it is fair she is asking for money, but I think you know what I mean.

Kimberly - posted on 03/07/2014

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Thank you so much. In a way I'm shocked she would expect as I know my grandmother wasn't paid to watch me as a child and she lived separately. Good to have someone's thoughts. Thank you so much. 20 a day adds up too. Then there's holiday breaks from school where I have to work but could put them in a camp instead of her. I could ramble on and on! Thank you again, very helpful!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/07/2014

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Well, if she is demanding money, maybe don't pay for her phone. Pay her a reasonable fee per day (20-25 dollars) and have her start pitching in. Or paying her own way. I don't know, just throwing out suggestions. Not sure what else she would expect from you. It seems like you already pay for everything.

Kimberly - posted on 03/07/2014

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She is demanding money at the same time complaining I have no savings! I'm a single mom and I was out of work for a while. Just trying to get back on track. I don't mind setting up a house account but don't have much extra to give. What's reasonable? Thanks.

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