Essa - posted on 10/10/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )
Thank you for taking the time to read my post...
My daughter just turned 4 years old the week her Junior Kindergarten class started. We are in Ontario, Canada and my daughter's class is an everyday, full day program. So Monday to Friday, 9:20am to 3:30pm.
I have been a stay at home mom ever since she was born so she has not been to any daycare/home care or spent time with other adults except for grandparents and some of my friends. She also doesn't have much experience with socializing with other kids because she was home with me so much.
She has been going to her Junior Kindergarten class for a month now, and the teacher has approached me twice, saying that when the teacher talks to her about what to and what not to do, that things aren't "connecting" and "clicking in", and that the teacher has to constantly remind her what to do (transitions, getting ready to go outside, getting ready to go inside etc). Another example, teacher keeps on telling her not to touch the things on the teacher's desk, yet my daughter still does from time to time as if she doesn't remember (or don't care?) the teacher has told her not to.
Another problem my daughter is experiencing is being bullied. I have personally witnessed this particular boy just approach her out of nowhere and starts swinging his arms at her, twice. When my daughter told him "No! Don't hit me!", he swung at her again, and another parent nearby yelled at the boy. My daughter has also told me that this boy swung his backpack at her and used his fist to knock her in the nose. She said she told the teacher and the teacher said to the boy "xxx? Did you just make her feel sad?", and that was it, the boy didn't say anything.
My daughter, for the very first time, said to me before bedtime tonight, "can we please stay home tomorrow mama?", I asked "Why don't you want to go to school?", she replied "Because I don't like xxx hitting me". It broke my heart.
What do you think I should do?
Is my daughter not "connecting" and "clicking in" a result of being cooped up in the house all these years? Or even maybe disorders...
Is it possible that she has been so used to having just me as the only authoritative figure that she doesn't listen to other adults?
Should I wait until she's 5 to try sending her to school again?
What about being picked on?
Any mommies out there been through this and have advice?
I really appreciate any feedback!