Should I put my childs father on the birth certificate?

Ashley - posted on 12/07/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I'm pregnant with my first child and married to the father at the moment...I'm working on divorce papers as he threatened me with a gun shortly after i found out, i also have a restraining order on him that extends well past my due date. I'm having some major issues deciding to put him on the birth certificate as the father. My mother recommends i put him down so i can collect child support, but I'm inclined to not put him as he, last we spoke, didn't even think the child is his...any advice?

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Lacye - posted on 12/07/2012

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Yeah. The state I live in is a bitch when it comes to that sort of thing. My husband was still technically married to his now ex wife when she had a child (that was obviously not his since he hadn't seen her in 3 or 4 years) and they put his name down as the father. My sister couldn't get her divorce from her abusive ex husband because she was pregnant. The judge actually refused to allow it even though her ex was beating her during her pregnancy.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/07/2012

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I have never heard of a women NOT being allowed a divorce if she is pregnant. Not cool.

Lacye - posted on 12/07/2012

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Actually, depending on where you live, a woman cannot get a divorce while she is pregnant and if she is married when the baby is born, the husband's name will automatically be put down as the father. So you might not get that choice.



To answer you question though, yes. You should put him down as the father because he IS the father. The child has a right to know.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/07/2012

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I agree with Jodi. Leave him if he is abusive, or threatens to be. A baby does not need to be raised in a violent home, and you should not have to deal with an abusive man. But as far as the birth certificate goes, well if he is the father, he should be on it.

Jodi - posted on 12/07/2012

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Your child has the right to have its father on its birth certificate. Even if the father isn't involved in the child's life for whatever reason, every child has the right to know who their parents are. I'm not sure what you are hoping to achieve by NOT adding him to the birth certificate. He IS the father, right? He will have rights whether you put his name on the certificate or not. And given you are married......he wouldn't have to fight too hard for that.

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