should i put the fathers name on the birth certificate

Carrie - posted on 01/10/2015 ( 11 moms have responded )

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i have a son that is a month and a half old i took him over to his dads place so he could see him and that was when he was a week old since then his father has not bothered to contact me at all,
my son is half native american and to get the status card for my son i need his dads name on the birth certificate but if i put his name on the birth certificate do i need to put his name on the birth registration ?

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/13/2015

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Put it on there. Be honest with yourself, the state, and your kid.

Ev - posted on 01/10/2015

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Sarah,

If someone is Native American and has a child with someone, that child will be a certain percentage Native American. There are rolls of the tribes in this States that if you are on them via a relation/ancestor you can get some benefits that people otherwise do not get and this goes back to the days when the Indians were removed from their lands etc. Its a long drawn out history lesson.

Anyway her question is does she have to place the father on the birth certificate and birth registration to get the status card. If the father is not listed on the card or certificate the child can not get the benefits. In answer to that question I do not know how you can legally leave the father of a registration card but still be on the birth certificate as the registration may be for the certificate itself. But MOM, you need to check the laws where you live to be sure of this as I AM NOT A LAWYER.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/13/2015

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Stephanie, that determination is for a court to make, not the estranged or parent who has physical custody at the time. That's all I'm saying. If allegations are proven, that's different.

This OP didn't put his name on, for whatever reason, but wants to collect benefits for her child based on his ethnicity. She needs proof of paternity and to put the father's name on the certificate.

Ev - posted on 01/13/2015

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@Stephanie Smith--But most cases are not like your own. A lot of them the mom does not want to allow the father a relationship to the child based on HER FEELINGS ONLY. Its not anything to do with the benefits of child that I see in posts most times. Most of them its about how this woman feels towards the man that she felt okay to take to her bed. After the fact he is no good anymore. And then the woman (en) whom have posted here have come up with WHY THEY THINK he is a bad father without proof and without that proof they can not get no visits or supervised visits because it is not based in fact and documentation. I can see your situation calling for that kind of decisions but at the same time it needs to go through legal means as well.

Stephanie - posted on 01/13/2015

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@Shawn - He wasn't around for the pregnancy, or birth. So I didn't put him on the birth certificate and gave him my last name. He came around when Landon was 3 months old and stayed around until Landon was 19 months old. That's when he confessed to sexually molesting him. So what started out as an attempt to make future adoption eaiser turned out to be an excellent decision. That is why I asked her reason. Maybe he doesn't deserve rights.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/13/2015

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@ Stephanie: You may have had your 'reasons', but that still doesn't mean that the child's father doesn't have rights. He does.

Stephanie - posted on 01/13/2015

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I guess to be able to better answer why wasn't he on the birth certificate to begin with? I had my reasons and didn't put my sons fathers name on the birth certificate. Best decision I have made.

Ev - posted on 01/10/2015

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I agree with the others that dad should be on the birth certificate and so on. If you do not do this you do not get those Native American benefits for your child to use.

Jodi - posted on 01/10/2015

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There is no advantage to you in NOT putting his father's name on the birth certificate other than to drag out any court proceedings that may involve proving biological parentage (such as DNA testing). You don't use a name on a birth certificate as reward or punishment for how a biological parent responds to their status as a parent. He IS the father. You can't change that by not adding him to a piece of paper.

Sarah - posted on 01/10/2015

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Why would you not put the father's name on the birth certificate? I don't understand what you mean about birth registration or status card, can you elaborate?

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